Leave or Stay?

Here in the Philippines, family bond is very vital to us.
When you say' family' that includes parents and their children, and then both vertically ranging upwards to grandparents, laterally to cousins, uncles, and aunts.

Yeah, the extended family is very common here.
Everyone treasured it, as a part of Filipino tradition.

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Then, are you going to leave or stay?

In many countries, most children leave or separate from their parents when they reached 18 yrs, old, they branch out on their own. But, it's quite different here in the Philippines, we are very close to each other to the extent that even we already got married and have our own family, we still stay at our parents' house and stick together.

In other countries, they may seem like a disappointment to the family if they still sticking up with their parents.
But here, even they already have their kids, they still depend on their parents.
Mostly, grandparents are the one who's taking care of their grandchildren and don't consider it as a burden. Instead, they love doing it and they want to see their grandchildren growing up on their sides.

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Extended family, here are some bad effects of it.
When you stay on your parents' side all time, even you're already married and have kids and not spreading your own wings, problems may occur.
As a person, we need to the learn the hard lessons of life and be matured enough to stand on our own feet. We can't do that and we can't be like that if we stay on our parents' nest.
If we decided to move out from the nest and try not to shield ourselves from difficulties in life has to offer, then, you're proving yourself that you bravely accepted the challenge.

You won't have your privacy.
You can't have the complete freedom that you wish for. You might not decide on your own because your parents might intervene. Actually, you can't blame them to do that, because while you're staying with them they might consider and still treat you as their baby.
Since you choose to be with your parents even you already had your own family then,you're not the only one who will suffer.

You can't even welcome visitors anytime because you need to ask permission to your parents first.
And lastly, you will not learn how to budget you and your spouse's monthly income. When you buy groceries, cook, pay bills, and etc you need to include them and they need to include you either.

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But remember these advantages:

Seeing your parents smiling and knowing that your the reason behind it, is the most priceless thing you can ever experience.
Our parents are no longer getting younger. So being on their sides is the best way we can help and take care of them. We might help them to see the doctor, to wash their clothes and to fix little things that are important to them.

That's why 'home for the aged' is not common here in the Philippines.
We choose to take care of our elderly parents than to send them in some home for the aged facilities.
That's how we show our gratefulness to them. They never get tired of taking care of us when we were baby until we grown up, that's why we should do the same thing to them when they grew older and losing strengths to do usual things. It's our opportunity to spend time and make more memories with them while they start losing some moments from their memory.

Home sweet home.
We feel comfortable when we stay in our own house. We all love the ambiance that we were used to it since we were young.

Lastly, when you are sick or your kids, your parents can give you advice how to cure it or even assist you with the household chores. Before you ask for their help, they're already there to help you through good and bad times.:)

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Conclusion:
It's all up to us what's the best way to live life.
If it's living alone and away from your parents or living with them.
Our choice, our own decision!!
But always remember that family will still be a family, nobody or nothing can ever replace it. So, when making decisions we must consider them always.

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