MOTIVATION OR HAPPINESS OF KIDS

Yes, "or" is obligatory here.
Why?

What is motivation?
A way to make a person do something he doesn't want to, but there are definite reasons and advantages which make unpleasant process important.

So we don't want to do it but we do because in the end we get something that we need.

Sport, diets, work - everything works by this principle.

But what about hobby?

We don't need any motivation to have it!
Why
Because we do what we really want to! What our soul asks for and what for we are "burning".

Do people always successful in diets, sports, money earning?
No. Low motivation - low results. We go not for "i want" but for "i need".

Do people always get good results in hobbies?
Yes!
They want to do it, and they give time and efforts without any pressure, and results are always fine.

So what do we need?
Success or happiness?
Hard work and struggle for the goal or just having pleasure from life and freedom to choose what you want?

You can motivate your kid to fight for good marks and diplomas, or you can key them just be happy and do what they want.

"He doesn't want to do anything! He is just playing football all the time! No maths, no reading!"

So to make him read and count you need to be a motivator or a punisher. Often a cruel one.
Like Michael Jackson's dad.
He is a star, but what's the price..

Or you can let your kid play football, go in for sport, and maybe it will be his way of success!
Like Paul McCartney's parents did.
They didn't prevent his playing the guitar and we know the result...

What do you choose?

I was a motivated girl, I fought for good marks because my mom was my motivator and my judger. She wanted to do the best for me, i know, but the method was wrong.
I hated education, studying, my school and I was dreaming just to be free from endless marks and exams...

It was the background why I don't want my son to be inside the traditional way of education.
I dont want to motivate and push him.
I want him to be free and happy.