Ungrateful 忘恩负义

Gratefulness is a virtue, but it is quite common to come across ungrateful people. We need to be grateful for the goodness extended to us. However, it is really unbearable for us if we have come across people who do not reciprocate our kindness with gratitude. Instead, they treat us badly.

If we do not know how to handle the ungrateful people, we would end up living with bitterness. Sooner or later, the bitterness we harbour would hurt us further. It will be like keeping a rotten bitter gourd inside our pocket. Overtime, it will stink and keep others to be away from us.

Although it is difficult to forgive those who are ungrateful of our kindness, it is possible to forgive by being gracious. According to a Chinese idiom, “Return good for evil (以德报怨).” And the Bible has a similar saying, “Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”

感恩是一种美德，但是有时还是会遇到忘恩负义的人。我们需要为着别人的善意而感谢。然而，当我们遇到了那些不以感激之情回报我们善意的人，相反的他们用很糟糕的态度对待我们；这真的会令我们很难过。

如果我们不晓得如何处理忘恩负义的人，我们最终会生活在痛苦中。随着时间，我们怀有的苦涩会进一步伤害我们。这就像在口袋里放一个开始腐烂的苦瓜，久了它就会发臭，什至使别人远离我们。

虽然很难原谅那些忘恩负义的人，但是宽恕还是正确的选择。根据一个中国成语，即是”以德报怨”。圣经也有类似的说法，“你不可为恶所胜，反要以善胜恶。”