I think you are completely wrong, but as your convictions are based on religion it is probably useless to enter a discussion. I agree that reducing the number of sexual partners (to 1) is best. But I needed a lot of 'experimentation' to arrive at this conclusion. So to simply tell others to stay with one partner will not help, they should find out for themselves and maybe it works out different for them...
Urges can be controlled that is true, but should they? And again, can you decide what is best for others? Within my relationship we do not control any urges, unless the other is clearly not wanting. I feel that this is a natural way of dealing with sex. Not doing it while you want it leads to frustration especially if it recurs often. It should 'flow naturally'. And again your natural flow may not be the same as that of other people, so what gives you the right to tell others what to do?
Identify what turns you on and play with it. Why avoid it? That is just so stupid. You live only once. Why fill up your life with frustration? Enjoy it! It is here for you.
Avoid pornography??? Why? That is ridiculous. If you enjoy it, watch it. There will come a point that you no longer desire it, assuming that you do not frustrate yourself with these stupid rules.
Find yourself a partner that aligns with your sexual desires and enjoy life to the fullest. That way your life will find its natural flow.
Most of all, do not impose stupid rules on others. In fact, do not impose any rules on others, what works for you may simply not work for them.
Now you may think that this would lead to all kinds of atrocities, but I think it is the other way around. It is frustration that leads to atrocities. Take away that frustration and the sky will turn blue.
Your advice induces frustration and consequently atrocities.