The moment she said yes (ULOG #6)

We could never deny that different people has different perception towards love.

Some people view love as an affection towards any person inside or even outside the circle of your family and friends. While some people view love as an action and devotion towards someone or something.

Meanwhile I always view love according to the Scripture in the book of Corinthians.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8 from New International Version

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

Although the definition given is pretty hard to find to a person because it sounds so perfect but I really do believe that it is not impossible to find one.

^{Straight from Middle East, Kuya John welcomed his girlfriend on the airport by asking her to marry him. Original Image taken from Kuya John Huss's social media account | Created via Sketchbook for Galaxy Application over Samsung Galaxy Tab A}

The story that I would like to share and that I have pondered upon is the story of Ate Steph and Kuya John Huss. Both had been together for more than a decade and finally they just got engaged few weeks ago at the airport.

To others, being in a relationship for quite too long seemed to be boring. This mindset then has often led to disputes in the relationship and then later to breakups.

The story of Kuya John and Ate Steph is just as unique as of the rest. And in line with that, there are keypoints that I learned and I wanted to apply into my life.

I am writing this because I would really want to learn from others in terms of being in a relationship because being tied up in an unhealthy/ toxic relationship happened to me (yours truly) multiple times. I could not afford having my heart torn into pieces for multiple times already. That is just so savage!

Focus on the person alone and your dreams together.
Ate Steph and Kuya John Huss had been together for a long period of time. One time, I was able to ask Ate Steph of the factor why they lasted so long. I also asked her whether or not happiness plays a crucial role in keeping the fire aflame in the relationship

Ate Steph answered me that it has not always been rainbows and butterflies for the both of them. They had been together for so many years and they argued a lot all throughout the relationship. Conflicts had then been resolved because they keep telling to themselves that they are team mates and that they should work as one in a relationship.

She told me then that relationship only works when both of the couple would give importance to each other and to the relationship that has been established. For short, love should be patient. Each of them must learn the importance of patience despite of all what the couple has been through. Each of them must learn the value of patience despite how rough the day has been going on and will be.

To be safe, in line with dreams, it is good to plan out of it already after you started seeing each other. As I recalled what dad has told me is that I shoule learn how to save or else I will have my phone crushed using s blender..

Also, mind the small things in life: the moment you find out what person he or she is, jot it down so that you would identify whether or not the person has changed. Also, it is important to keep a journal so that you would have a reference.

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To those who have not found the one that would swoon us , do not worry for we will all find The One just for us. I am very positive with the statement that God is often early but He will never.

^{@gailbelga or Johanna Gail is a free-spirited freelance artist. She took up Bachelor of Arts in International Studies in one of the Ateneo universities in the Philippines. She is currently a candidate for Masters in Public Administrations. She volunteers in various non-profit/nongovernmental organization which aims for human rights through political education. She draws and writes about the country to provide awareness and promote the Philippines to foreign tourists.}