RE: THE DEVASTATING PITS OF SELF-PITY
dear, if we face self pity rare ,its not a big problem , we can overcome it easily may be its the result of any other sad feeling or hurt but if it becomes our habbit its dangerous ,,
some times self pity is due to life exams and challenges but mostly its the result of problems in relations and routine attitude in this case
we should remember one thing that ...if someone have problem with everybody in his life than its mean that problem is inside him.understand the problem and cure it with positive feelings. our life is a challenge and every step is an exam ,if we are looking others what they are giving us we should look that what we are giving them..most of the self pity problems i think can be solve with gratitude ...and practice of gratitude
may be you are not agree but i think like this
everybody is not perfect but everybody in this world have positive qualities in his personality...
and in other things too we should keep an eye on positive..in every bad incident something hidden is positive
positive feelings is just coping with the fear of your inferiority. That is the greatest deception of our times...and it keeps you cycling through and perpetuating abuse in this world.
I've found it to be most effective to face the dark emotions and simply forgive them. In this way you forgive and forget...it's not a coverup by just going to the flip side of the polarity of energy by like getting high on a feeling...that is a form of cognitive dissonance and it most unfortunate that it is widely parroted as an acceptable thing to do.
Many of the "gurus' in this world are examples as the 'pinnacles of self-deception....the ultimate self-compromise'. It's a real shame.
best regards to you.