The problem is we've had organized efforts and those end up devolving into people trying to control others [...]

This is really true and a big problem in any collective action, across the political spectrum. I quite like a particular approach of ad hoc or "pop up" organization. A benefit of this is that it's easier to form cross cultural / political / whatever groups because you don't have to stick around with them too long to get pissed at them and start trying to retain power.

1. Identify an issue
2. Raise it with people
3. Organize
4. Fail or succeed in goal
5. DISBAND immediately

And in fact, I think this might be a good replacement for government, but that's another story.

I think we can agree on a problem, but not what the entire problem of the world is.