The truth is God will not come down to give our kids the training He has instructed us to give them. Prov 22:6
As true Christians, we must worship God, and work in His vine yard as you have rightly pointed out. But God has given us Kids, and tasked us with full responsibility for them.
When kids go bad, nobody says, bad God. They say, "Bad parents"
We must not neglect our responsibilities in the home because we are working in God's vine yard. There has to be a balance.