I would choose Hanoi, like you started on your previous post. Most of the expat lives there and will be much easy for you to relate with them.

Having a cheap and really nice food, like you going back to Anita. I would still choose Hanoi again.

Then finally, you can be living in a fine house and have good walkway/transportation network but if the people are not nice and has this "fk them, let the wait attitude,,".Then you won't be happy living there and this is where Hanoi wins my heart. Living around nice people and people ready to help you and no scam. Coupled with good salary which is double of the previous.
Hanoi is the place. Hanoi wins. imo