Sometimes I miss the memory but not the place.

_{Wednesday 7 February 2018}

I reached out the destination at about 2 pm and I found the home was still empty. My Amom was still working and hadn't come back home yet. So, I decided to visit a nearby supermarket and did a little grocery.

For the note, the city I am currently visiting is a little conservative town in the east. The inhabitants are mostly retired people and little kid meanwhile, the youngsters are seeking education and job in metropolitan area. Having to left the city after years, I didn't know suddenly dressing was a big issue.

So, after I freshened up and left my backpack at home, I changed my attire to shorts and plain t-shirt. As I got out from the house, I've got a lot of stare from people around me since it appeared I didn't dress as the common norm.

All across the supermarket and shops I've been to, the girls were wearing hijab. It wasn't something I normally see in my current city as everyone can dress whatever they want but here, I felt I was completely different.

This has been a concern lately. I felt the whole world is suddenly limiting one's choice even when it comes to dressing. It especially disgust me when someone is blaming a rape victim because their way of dressing. I wholeheartedly believe, it is an individual choice to dress whatever they want. I am also aware of fact that there is a common norm on how to dress but in a moderate country that's not running their law based on a certain religion, this shouldn't be happening.

Long short story, I went home that day and told my amom my whole experience. Later on, she told me next time I went out and alone, I should dress modest instead wearing shorts as if it was a beach. This wasn't the city that I used to live and even more, I saw little children were having no choice but to wear something they might not agree with.

_{I am trying to dress as modest as I can}

This resonates with my current experience visiting a piss-poor aquatic center that was very dirty and did not seem to follow safety guidelines for its slides.

_{This was taken right after the sky turned gray. It was sunny when I reached there}

I went from home and obviously wore a proper swimsuit in hope everyone will do so. Apparently, as I reached there with my cousin, everyone was wearing cotton t-shirt and fully clothed to swim. It was such an uneasy feeling to be the only one wearing a proper swimsuit. It wasn't like this when I was a little child. My family used to take me swimming and everyone was okay wearing bikini and swimsuit back in the late 90's.

In the end, I said, well fuck that! It was sunny and all I want was dipping my feet into the water and tried the slides.

Speaking about it, that was really scary and awful. The ladder to reach the slides was very slippery and anyone can die at an unexpected time-- I might be exaggerating but with water and moss all over it, a little kid can trip and die. First hand, I knew I shouldn't expect much from something that cost 1.5$ but that was just me being me.

_{My cousin and I had fun even at first, he was scared to try the slides and almost trip himself on the way.}

Recently, dressing has been a very big issue. Why do we try to control someone's choice of dressing? So what,if one's wanted to be naked? So what, if one's wanted to be fully clothed? So what, if one's wanted to hide from the world? Isn't it their individual choice to dress? I am okay with anyone dressing the fuck they want as long as they don't try to impose their beliefs on me.

So, what do you think? Should someone tell us what to dress and what not? Tell me your opinion below.

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