How to overcome shyness! 10 effective tips!

10 effective tips to overcome shyness!

1. Do not say you're shy
   There is no need to hang your shyness on the big bell. Your friends, family will probably have noticed it, but all the others may never have the chance to notice it. It may not be as visible as you might think.

2. Try to keep calm
   If you should blush in unpleasant situations, do not put it in the same way as shyness, and say that you always tend to blush very quickly.

3. Do not think too much about it
   Do not let your thoughts revolve around yourself and what others might think about you. Instead, try to observe the people around you, ask who they are, and interpret the sentiments of these. Does someone need help, is sad or is stressed?

4. Stop self-sabotage.
   Sometimes we are really our worst enemy.
   Do not let your Inner Critic pull you down. Instead, try to analyze the power of this voice, so you are able to fight against it.

5. Know your strengths.
   Create a list of all your qualities and abilities - if necessary, you can also be supported by friends and family.
   Read this list whenever you feel doubts or uncertainties. So let it remember you how much you have to offer.

6. Choose your environment wisely
   Shy people tend to have less but more intense friendships, which means that the right choice of a friend or partner is even more important. So spend time with warm, reliable, and encouraging people who will do you good.

7. Keep distance to mean people
   There are always a few people who love to dis and hurt others, those who do not have sensitivity and those who do not care if you hurt someone. Keep a healthy distance from such people.

8. Face your fear
   Often, it is best to fear your fears and do what is most frightening. Self-Overcoming requires courage, but if you do this you will automatically strengthen your self-awareness. In the beginning you will have some difficulties, of course, but you will get better from time to time. You have only to face the difficult start and not be afraid to be bad. So imagine the unpleasant situations instead of running away from these.

9. Write down your worries and delusions
   When you write down all your sorrows and worries on a sheet of paper, you are not only confronting yourself with it, but you can also create a plan to get rid of them. Likewise, it is useful to list the worst scenarios that plague you, what would be the worst thing that could have happened if your fears actually happened? Is it something that somebody could say or do? Read it out loud, probably you now realize how weird that sounds. How likely is this situation to happen? Has it ever actually happened?

10. Set realistic goals
    Clearly define your goals, create a plan and try to reach it step by step. If you are always doing something towards the goal, you will notice from time to time how you become more open-minded, self-confident and freer. A goal can look like, for example, I will ask 4 women for phone number today and not I will get 4 phone numbers today.

I hope these tips will help you to deal with your shyness better. Test the techniques and see what works better for you. And always remember; Do not lose your focus on your path and goal, don´t stop fightening. With a little practice and a bit of patience you will be able to overcome your shyness!