Taking ownership of life itself

Back on the train heading toward home to meet my wife and the doctor's office. Our daughter has had a cough that has stopped her sleeping through the night for over two weeks. This is relatively normal for her but last night she was having trouble breathing too, so back to the doctor.

I really hope that when she does grow up she has some superpower that compensates for her childhood. I suspect she won't though, we aren't a superhero kind of family.

Not that the lack of superpowers should stop is anyway as regardless of the skills or situation we may have, we all have an equal opportunity to do our best with the resources we possess. While people concern themselves with what they can buy, the more valuable metric is what one can do.

I personally am an opponent of the idea of what we do defines us as our behaviour can change drastically depending on experience
But when it comes to directing personal development, the only thing we can take ownership of is or skillset and, that can't be bought no matter how much money one has.

On top of that, do you want to pay for all services. Are you willing to pay someone to sleep with your wife because they are better in bed than you? If so, I take Steem.

Obviously there are some things that we want to take ownership of, even though we might not be the best at it ourselves, yet we don't always want to improve ourselves in these areas.

For Steem, I have thought about this quite a lot as I have had to adjust various things over time myself and, I have helped some people get a better understanding of the ways they could improve their results, whether it be quality and type of content, engagement levels or overall earning. Some experiment with change and some don't and instead say, I am going to do ad I please.

This is the beauty of Steem because everyone can do as they please depending on the resources available to them. However, if one has a specific result in mind, what one does is going to affect reaching the destination or missing the mark. Doing what one pleases doesn't necessarily take into consideration what is required to get there or what will successfully negotiate the obstacles that can get in the way.

Our experience of this world is our own and own means ownership. While there are many factors that can influence and obscure our view, the responsibility of how we understand and negotiate our lives is fundamentally upon our own heads. While it is tempting to blame the people who place the hurdles in our way, how we face those hurdles is something only we can choose. Most don't face hurdles, they use them as excuses and say that the conditions are not under their control therefore there is nothing to be done.

This is an act of avoidance as there is always something that can be done, there is always something available to be learned. It isn't always a comfortable lesson of course but comfort and value rarely go hand in hand and the most valuable experiences we have likely had have been those in the negative, the ones that have shaped us and developed our understanding.

Some of course get bitter from experiences of adversity and hardship, others become
empowered. As my daughter grows I am hoping to be able to help her build the understanding that experience is always empowering, no matter if it is negative or positive, as it is all a process of understanding development. At this point, it looks likely that she is going to face some ongoing health issues so having the understanding that these conditions can be leveraged to help her be her ultimate best is also likely to help her feel her fulfilled best.

Rather than a life of excuse where the outlook is, If only conditions were better..., she can learn to own her experience and therefore have the best chance of influencing her world in whichever ways she chooses.

Self-direction, responsibility and ownership of experience is freedom. It doesn't come through perfect conditions, it comes through the understanding that adversity is just a different set of rules so actions must change, behaviours adapt and the game can still be played to its best and life lived to its fullest.

Living a good life doesn't necessarily mean, living an easy life.

Taraz
[ a Steem original ]
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