Gently Steeming

in thoughts •  last month

Tonight I met the gentlest Steemian in the world, @jukatravels. It was amazing to watch Juka act so calmly around so many people and, so patiently with all of the fans wanting a picture. If you don't know Juka, you might have heard of Juka's partner in crime @pharesim. They say that owners tend to imitate their pets and this seems to hold true here as he is just as calm and patient.

It is funny because I introduced myself but it didn't immediately click but when it did, he thought that I would be taller, I seem to get that a lot here. What is interesting is that many of us have known each other for quite some time through posts, comments and chats and once we actually meet in person, it is apparent that we have certain expectations about what we are going to find.

I have always considered myself a fairly under the radar kind of account but I have been surprised at how many people are surprised when we meet. That sounds somewhat conceited but I don't mean it like that, it is just that when we come across users on-chain we get a feel for who they are, what they might be like and often, the type of person they are based on very limited information.

A group of us went for dinner and as we walked back to the start of the event, I met a person who used to follow me but stopped and he even remembered the post and why he stopped following. I have lost many followers over the time so I don't take it personally that it happens but I found this interesting enough to mention. The reason was that on a particular post they had spent time developing a comment that I never answered and felt that it deserved an answer, looking back he said he was used to getting answered so was a little annoyed. That is fair enough in my opinion.

I think that accounts that don't answer often enough to users shouldn't be high on the to follow list if they are claiming to be community thinkers. Of course, this has to be taken with a good dose of understanding as some accounts get a lot of comments and many of them are repetitive as they don't read what others have commented or what other replies have already been made. What I don't agree with though is people only answering certain accounts.

I try to get to all comments but it isn't always possible but I try to treat each account as equal in value. I try to ignore Reps and wallet size and attempt to give complete answers to people whether they are whales or new signups. When I skip or miss comments, I don't do it on purpose but I am relatively even in this too. There have been some very large accounts that I have not replied to. Of course, I do have to think about support here too but if I miss commenting, it is nothing personal, it is nearly always some kind of sidetrack interruption that takes my attention away.

The reason that I put a fair amount of time into comments is that it is the only way for many users to get clarification and understanding on points that they might not fully grasp from a post. This is the core part of engagement in my opinion as it creates an environment where people feel comfortable enough to ask questions.

Now, I can only give my view of the blockchain, Steem and the future as I see it based on what I understand and envisage. I don't mind doing this as you can see but it also makes me a little uncomfortable that people actually listen. Silly is't it? I mean, of course I want people to listen but I am not looking for people to listen blindly. I hope that when I present with a hundred, words that cover perhaps, maybe, potentially and possible, people recognize it for what it is.

There are some things I am quite certain about at times yet I say, "perhaps" because I want a reader / listener to do the work themselves, to close the understanding gap so they can not only take the responsibility of action but also be much more involved in reaching the decision to act. There is an approach of "make them think it was there ideas" to decrease resistance which works but, I also see it as a buying-in process.

When someone actually uses my idea, it is no longer mine, it is theirs too. This isn't about deferring blame if it goes wrong, it is about sharing responsibility for success too. It is a decentralized decision and action process that can cross time and space. A book written 100 years ago still holds actionable content if a reader decides to act upon it. It is really quite incredible to think that ideas written can potentially be missed for generations but can still influence future generations. Too many people look for an immediate reaction to the words but that is rarely going to be the case.

A lot of the conversations I have had here so far have included aspects of instant gratification and perhaps our ideas are the hardest to accept as a slow burn process. How would you feel if you had a good idea that changed the world but by the time it was ever recognized as a good idea, you had already passed, you would never see the success and adoption of your idea?

All things that have value take time to develop and not all value is possible to be realized in a life time, sometimes it takes many generations before what could be brilliant thoughts have any tangible effects on anyone. Does not seeing the result mean we shouldn't bother?

Tomorrow morning is @ned's talk and I am looking forward to what he is going to say in regards to the community and his future vision for Steem. Unlike some, I don't see @ned as a leader of Steem as I am still hoping for more self-governance, but he is definitely an influencer. Will his ideas inspire new thoughts, will they inspire people to think or do differently? In the morning we will find out.

Someone asked me why I am not speaking at Steemfest which I find quite funny but for me as someone who is happy flying under the radar, it would worry me. What if people actually listen to me? I love being part of the discussion, I love the engagement, I love helping people if they ask but I don't consider myself leadership material by choice. If I ever had to take an authority role, it would only ever be by necessity.

What I love most about Steem and something that I will likely post about later is, it makes us think about areas we might normally avoid, and that includes ourselves and our roles in this world.

I think Juka has life worked out pretty well.

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There was a time when I was almost always available to respond within minutes. The past few days I've been late, but at the same time, my blog has been quieter than normal so it's hard to sit around doing nothing, waiting for comments, when I can catch up on sleep or get some work done. I often hope people can be patient, especially after all of the effort I put in on previous, busier days.

Being ignored is a terrible feeling. I've given people three strikes. I'm a busy guy. If I go out of my way to leave a comment, and I'm ignored every single time, chances are they'll never hear from me again after the third. I probably won't unfollow, but I'd rather spend my time talking to people who don't snub me. The odd time is fine and if I'm just leaving a little one liner joke, I don't expect much of response. Them quietly smiling is good enough. I'm not going to act needy either. If someone doesn't want to speak to me, I'm not losing sleep over that.


Patience is in short supply these days unfortunately. I think overall you do one of the best engagement jobs on the platform and take a lot of time I other's posts, something I can improve on a lot.

The three strike rule is a decent approach to many things. I also like the three second rule as I drop a lot of food...


That dog looks like someone who could snag that dropped food up within nanoseconds, then continue sitting there looking innocent and calm like that. I think you'd scratching your head for three seconds, wondering which dimension that food landed up in.

Sorry to disappoint you, but I just listened to you 😄 Very interested in your experiences at the Steemfest!

Incredible they would say that about you! One of the things I most enjoy is the comments section here and you also ensure to engage in a valuable way even when it is not the same line of thought as yours. I can only wish that my posts can get the same level of engagement as yours but then again, I am nowhere as great with words or thoughts as you which is why I always take the time to read your posts as they inspire me to alternative thinking. Thanks!


Building engagement is less about content and more about time taken to build relationships. Another post topic perhaps ;)

Cute dog!


Juka is such a gentle dog.

Yes I know you are quite thorough and that I appreciate about you. It sounds like all is going well. I value the fact that steem stretches your mind even when you least expect it. There is plenty of intellectual candy for all to grow from if they so choose. Thanks @tarazkp


Intellectual candy is a good term for it as I tend to have a sweet tooth. :)

How many steemitians are there, btw? (100's?)


I think 300ish so 70 percent of the active users :P


ah! - ya beat me to it! lmao...

although it is 3% ish..

Me too, am pretty slighted when people don't reply my comment because I took the time to comment. But from your post I now understand that it might not be deliberate if someone don't respond to your post.

But I know for sure that some people are just mean when they do not respond to your comment.

But for you I can say that you try your best to respond to all your commenters. You should be given an award for it. 😄


It is very rare i choose not to answer a genuine comment. It also depends on IRL situations

great photography

im interested to see what Ned has to say also. hope you post it


I will try. 830 I the morning... It is 310 now :D

I found that a little peculiar at the first steemfest that quite a few folk asked me if I was doing a talk and I was like, hell no, what could I say!!

I'm wondering now if my encounters with Galen have left any reflections on what I think you might be like. I know he's very fond of his little brother and niece!

You got me thinking on the comments thing. I try to reply to all genuine comments (ignore the spam ones though), but I know I've missed some and realised days later. I'll reply with an apology, but rarely hear back again. If I really can't think of a reply, but enjoyed the comment, I'll upvote and leave it at that. I hate just saying "Thank you" or "lol".

From the other side, if I comment and don't receive a reply, but usually do, I'll assume it was overlooked, they just didn't have a response that time or got sidetracked, because that's the reasons I'd miss replying. Nobody's perfect, so judge yourself before you judge other's (at least that's what I try to do). @nonameslefttouse has a good approach with the 3 strikes. There's no point wasting time and energy having one sided conversation, but giving them a chance first is a good idea.

I love a post where not everything is concluded, but thought seeds are planted and a great conversation ensues in the comments. After all, we don't all know everything and no one viewpoint is necessarily correct.

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Interesting to read about your initial interactions, and especially the guy who unfollowed you.

Negative actions often sit in the mind longer than all the positive ones. I could ask you more about this, but then again I'll be there soon enough.

Why is it always "I thought you'd be taller" XD

Sounds like the event is off to a good start :D

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