I don't see romantic relationships as "true (truth) love" as they are always conditional in many ways.

I think it's impossible for any love, except for that of a parent, to be unconditional. We all have conditions and expectations from partners and friends. It's the way we work...So I guess it really depends on what you mean by true love, you know?

Maybe the person doing the urging is the self asking to investigate again, to understand better. To stop getting hurt.

Maybe, but I guess only I can know that, or you know, whoever has the mistaken expectations.
But I believe it's up to each and every one of us to figure out what we want to do and fuck up accordingly. If I (the expectations person, not me as in me) secretly do want to change my expectations and beliefs and accept the other as they are, then either I figure it out or I don't. I hold on to those expectations and suffer accordingly.
Or maybe I don't want to change them, you know?

And yeah, I see how it can be the self asking, it happens. But the other person, the one who has changed...well, they're kinda expecting the same thing, aren't they? Why can't you accept who I am now?
It's a continuous blame game, you know? It's my fault for being stubborn or it's his fault for having changed and I think both have equally good reasons for blaming the other..