This is my entry for @jason04 "My Life's Biggest regrets". https://steemit.com/contest/@jason04/my-life-s-biggest-regret-challenge-all-participants-receive-a-reward-i-jason04
Here is my entry
Everyone experiences regrets, it may be big or small. It is something we wish we could have done better in or did not do at all.
I have lots of regrets too. Some in my studies, in my work and in my family. I read some women regret being a single mom or having a child without a Dad and then giving them up, only to regret years later. I am a single mom and never regretted it because now I am a grandmother.
We have regrets in our family life. I do too just like others and for different reasons.
My regret was never being able to get close to my dad. I am an only girl in a family of 4 siblings yet I was never close. I blame it on our lifestyle or actually my dad's lifestyle. He was in the military, the US Navy so they hare assigned in different places every 3-4 years.
When he met my mom he was in between assignments so after a few years they got married. They met during their older siblings marriage being the best man and maid of honor. My Mom's older sister married my Dad's older brother. So after 5 years of writing letters they finally got married. Still my mom stayed behind but gave birth to my older brother 1 year after then was assigned in Hing Kong. Had my mom accompanied him I would have been born in Hing Kong lol. So the first time we saw each other when I was 4 yrs old.
Well to make a long story short even thou we were where he was stationed still we would see him only 1 week a month. When he finally retired we moved home. I was a preteen and wanted to be on my own with friends of my own. Since we went to school in the city it would olny be weekend that we were together as a family.
He died in a vehicular accident 1 day after his 50th birthday. But a few months before we were able to have a heart to heart talk and promised that we would try harder to understand each other. I guess God thought that since we forgave each other and starting on the right foot, it was time to take my Dad before we forget our promises.
I only wish I had started earlier to become closer. It is not his fault because he was used to the military life and having men to boss around. I guess he was not so comfortable around a rebellious teen-age girl.
It has been 41 years since he has gone. I still talk to him and I regret not being a "daddy's girl". But I have no regrets with how he trained and taught me the ways of life.
So for those young girls who still have your fathers, make the most of it, get close and tell them you love them. I regret not being able to tell my dad I love him everyday while he was alive so I tell him as much as I can in prayers to him. Not just fathers but mothers too. I am glad I still have my mom, she never remarried even though she was only 51 when my Dad died. Do it while you can so you won't regret it later.
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