"The only people asking for war are those who were not in a war before." I don't know who said it, but it still rings true. My condolences for the loss of your cousin.
If we believe in a conspiracy or not, the powers to be - those who are not on the ground in war - are always playing chess with the lives of others. I have just recommended an ARTICLE about the US support for ISIS, and my reaction was WTF!