I teach in an elementary school. It is easy to identify kids whose parents don't allow the child to solve their own problems. Often the brightest child, but no ability to control his frustration at all - he wants the teacher to do everything for him. Boys here suffer from this complex because parent sidentify the one they want to boost into success, and give him everything like amagic carpet - his feet never touch the ground. It is very sad, but I fear no matter the boys' intelligence, he will struggle to become touch enough. Strangely, the girls seldom suffer from this particular problem, perhaps because parents are not seeing them as necessary investments in that way. For them, they should just be pretty and go find a husband. I find the girls are tougher, able to solve problems - and seldom suffer a lot of the inferiority concerning their appearance.
It is for us who perceive these things to keep on trying hard to assist others. Sometimes love can be shown in a destructive way. Your post is so good - can we call it prose poetry?