On the eve of the holiday all lovers wanted to reflect
On the eve of the holiday all lovers wanted to reflect on the topic: what is love, and what love is not. Here I swung. It was the most ridiculous. It is such a great and all-encompassing feeling that it is somehow silly to describe it in words. If only a song to sing. But this is better not to do, in security measures for your hearing. Love can only be described by images. And for you outside the door on which love is written, what is? So many facets of this feeling of love - affection, sympathy, love, dependence, self-sacrifice, fusion. Yes, and do not count. But these are the kinds of condition that modern psychology shares with love, and this is just science. We will not be strict with her. Not always relationships and strong feelings are one and the same.
For Love, we still need the ability for this feeling and our first need to develop the opportunity to love and be loved. More than our soul does not need anything. At first we feel sympathy and it can be caused by the most simple and intelligible things, beauty, social status. Next maybe you will experience love, which flares up like a flash and usually just as quickly fades away. With the first disappointments in our image, the rose-colored glasses fly off and love is not there.
Another kind of feeling that we experience is attachment. Here, too, we rarely notice the person himself, we are much more important than the events that we lived together and which are very important for us. If we often spend time together, do something very interesting for both of us, then it can very close. For example, people who have spent a long time on a hike or just had a very long time for good communication in the team, someone alone can quite decide that here he is love and I have nowhere to go without this person. At this very moment a series of problems and clarification of relations begins. Well, if you have grown to enthusiasm, you can be congratulated. You have learned to see the unique qualities inherent in this person's quality, and not only the good that they themselves received in their relationships.
The main thing that your relationship was not a relationship of dependence, did not bring in your life fears and constant anxiety, discontent. Do not forget that true love is freedom, do not sacrifice yourself or demand the impossible from a partner. No one needs love at the cost of some incredible sacrifices, like climbing Golgotha. Sacrifice is not love. Self-sufficiency and self-love is the first step towards showing a great feeling for you. If a person knows how to love, then he usually has such feelings in abundance and he is ready to give this joy to someone else. There is such a false belief that the source of love is in another partner. The search for the second half becomes a phobia, and a person can not think of anything, only that he is alone. The fear of loneliness pushes us to very strange things. Real healthy relationships are built not on dissolving oneself in a partner, but in revealing the best qualities in the beloved and in the joint creativity and development.
And in reality, relationships are often built not on love, but on the fact that the idea of love is the same, expectations and hopes are justified, the images of love turned out to be the same. For a time such an alliance will take place. And then it will become clear what is really love or affection. Love never ends, does not have its limit. True love can never cool down, nothing can stop it or freeze its source. Love is absolute and infinite. Like life itself. Love with open eyes and accept everything as it is, love is acceptance completely without a trace. Love in us has always been and always will be. The only thing that is necessary is to begin to show it. I wish you to Love and be loved every day.