You managed to handle with humor a topic that could be really antagonistic. Your spiel about sex with aliens was hilarious.
I'm willing to grant you that men may want to have more sex than women, but I think the consequences of that disparity leads to bigger problems than dissonance in the marital bedroom. I think, if it is true, it may explain why men across cultures and throughout history have tried to control women's sexuality. Have tried to control women.
The argument has always that women have to dress a certain way and act a certain way for their own safety. But is that true? Or are men protecting a valuable resource, their access to sex, when they limit a woman's behavior? Other men covet that resource.
You have made this an entertaining blog, but it's really an important discussion. You are right to present the subject openly, so we can understand the differences that may separate people who care about each other (and also those who don't).
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Yeah I think the ramifications are wide across the culture, and they're difficult to isolate, as with anything that is so pervasive. I don't offer solutions, I only hope that knowledge itself will somehow make things better.
As usual, I think animals are instructive here. Anyone who's been around them long enough knows that males treat females largely as they would a resource. Humans aren't as simple, but still exhibit the same broad characteristics. They may want to control other women as a way of controlling themselves; they may demand women dress more conservatively to better contain their own urges. Those sections I wrote on Weiner etc. have the potential to be very inflammatory, since they can be construed as saying that men simply can't control themselves, and so are not to blame if they rape etc. I'm definitely a determinist, which means I think all action is determined by inputs + the black (but not empty) box we call our self, but that doesn't mean we may excuse any behavior. Men are more prone to be less able to control their urges, and that will result in a certain statistical distribution of rape, especially when you add the average physical power of the sexes into the mix. We need to acknowledge this, and then figure out educational interventions that will tip the scale, equally deterministically, in favor of more sociable actions.
I refrained from adding that bit about responsibility...although the thought kept running through my mind. We don't allow the poor to steal from the rich, even though temptation is great. Basically, I say to men, women and anyone else with negative impulses: Get a grip. You're responsible for your actions. Positive reinforcement (training) or negative reinforcement (punishment). Both have their place.