Here's A Crazy Idea: Maybe It's Time We Start Blaming Others
In the world of self-help, one idea always stands out: Never blame others for anything.
Any, fucking thing.
You absolutely must accept full responsibility for everything that happens in your life, including all the bad shit that happens.
Toxic friends? Don't blame them. How you feel is up to you and not up to them.
A shitty boss? Take it in your stride and just do the work.
Somebody cuts you off in traffic? Not their fault.
Government sucks? You're just going to have make do since they're in charge.
And so on.
It sounds sensible. After all, you're your own person and you have to deal with whatever life throws at you. Life is unfair too and you've to accept that.
Self-helpers are sure to inject, "Everything, literally everything is your creation!" and stuff like that.
But how about this: Maybe... Just maybe, sometimes, we don't have to blame ourselves.
We don't have to accept responsibility.
And it's certainly not our damn fault.
I mean, why make any kind of apologies whatsoever when some idiot out there decides to make their own problems your problem?
Why turn it inwards to rationalize, analyze and see how you ultimately must do all the work when you should snap out of it, fuck it and let them do the work instead?
And shit, are you like born with a disease and in a poor country where you don't even know when your next meal is coming? I really don't blame you if you're mad.
So get mad.
Get fucking mad.
Maybe blaming others will make people wake up and realize that they ought to respect you.
Maybe not accepting responsibility will open new doors to opportunities where new responsibilities actually make sense for your life.
Maybe just walking away and moving on will make them miss you, hence finally elevating you and letting you become great.
Maybe it's time to stop putting yourself down altogether.
Think about it.
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Haha what is mad without sane? What is ownership without blame?
Blaming others or blaming oneself are not the only options.. perhaps I am not the voice for you this day, however one day perhaps consider the art of allowing is exactly what creates the space to happily walk your own path.
As usual, you give the best and most unique insights bro.
Ah my bro, less best.. more simply another reflection.
Allowing and humility creates space to own what we are responsible for. Learning from our experiences and moving forward with insight, wisdom and purpose.
That's not to say getting mad and expressing your uncensored truth has no purpose, of course it does. Wholeness is balance all ways and I'm always going to support you on that. Do your best to express yourself freely and honestly at all times, apply sufficient energy as you see fit for each scenario.
However, inmy humble opinion to cast blame is to anchor yourself in past events. It is a sticking point not only for you but as you prescribe fault on to others (not always accepting ones own part in it's creation) so too it sucks everyone into that negative focal point. I almost said vortex, though I know how you feel about such whoo whoo terminology LMAO!
Point is, express yourself. Spend less energy on others opinions and more on your own. Allow what is to be and do not accept responsibility for what is not yours. Keep it moving, tell the better feeling story and move forward towards that which you want.
Can I get any more preachy here? Lol be love and beloved brother.
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@aldentan
I get it, its hard when it feels like people, family, steemit or even the government or your boss try to push your buttons... Its infuriating...
But if you are "one big walking button" then maybe you need to do the work, you know some therapy like "Reparenting", "inner child-work" or even go on meds. That being said...
(The words have been attributed to the famous psychoanalyst Sigmund Freud and the award-winning science fiction author William Gibson).
Thanks for sharing this refreshing post and cheers!
/FF
Perhaps then others going for therapy is your therapy then.
Perhaps then others
Going for therapy is
Your therapy then.
- aldentan
I'm a bot. I detect haiku.
That haiku was funny!!!
Its my opinion that we all need to go to therapy or at least try to improve our selfs with self-help books or something, study some techniques for healing ourselves and try them.
Try to see what we need to fix with ourselves and then try to actively fix that...
/FF
I get your point. Our instinct from childhood is anger and lack of self control. Then, as we mature we learn to control our anger because quite often there are negative repercussions for anger. But at some point after we have complete self control, why not allow ourselfs concious and controlled anger, directed at the offenders in our life? This is a conversation I've had with someone I respect that feels that anger is always negative. Not sure it's completely settled in my mind.
Maybe the 'control' shouldn't be narrated as 'It is my fault' or 'I must do all the work.'
Let them do the work.
Wow lovely fish so beautiful CLR
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