RE: A dad whose kids were not interested enough to learn. He blames the school .... Is he right?
Cant blame the teachers....
My ex and I had VERY different outlooks on schooling and parenting, although she wanted them to succeed, she had no desire to push them academically or around the home. They were in essence left to themselves unless I was around. The only things that seemed to bother her was when they didnt do things that would impact on her own chores....it has made the kids beleive that study or homework was an 'option'. It drove me nuts, and still does. It is a constant fight to get them to WANT to study and work around the home. It is easier now that the bulk of them are with me full time, but it is so very much the parents responsibility to get them 'schooled' and interested in those matters.
Some of my kids (I have 5) now are interested, and others not (because there is an option now).
I read that the influences in a childs life are 25% social (friends and the like), 25% is family life and 50% is the childs own personality and desires
Good morning @towjam, thank you for your story. I so agree with you that couple agreement on education and child raising has the most positive impact and stability on our kids. Sorry to hear of your angst.
It is amazing to me how much our children arrive in this world with their own personalities and hardwiring. It is our job as parents to influence and guide as much as we can; however, these little humans are not robots. They are small souls with their own free will. I agree with you that we are one small part of the equation as parents. It's our job to make the most of it!
Hiya @susanfoust, nice to hear from you. We only have one go at parenting and getting it right don't we. So you are so right in saying that we must "make the most of it."