Will it be Possible to Change the Character?

th2017 (54)in #steemiteducation • 7 years ago

"He has bad character", "he lacks character". Those are some ways to describe how a person's personality is. Reference is made to the character implying his bad temper, his ease to get angry and be a volatile person with his emotions.

Having character does not mean that the person is fierce with others or cantankerous. Having character goes much further. Rather, we could define it as self-control, control of emotions, and we can even go a step further, it's about having control over life.

How do we come to the control of life, if character is used to refer us if a person has a bad temper or not?

Sure you know people who are sensitive to apathy, to fall into depressions, are easily frustrated and do not know why. These are individuals who need to develop their character.

Then, character is to possess emotional control. It is a power that is achieved when you choose at will, the mood to feel, and is not subject to circumstances.

Serenity, self-confidence, control over what is going to be said and done, are developable. The character can be strengthened.

It is a skill, not a talent. It is not born with character, it is forged with training, with practice.

It is a training that begins at the moment we are aware that we can choose between different options the action with which we will react to something that happens to us.

There is a circumstance, how are you going to react? It's when the character enters the game. A person with a weak character will react, subject to the stimulus. He will not take the time to think, to use his reason to decide the way that suits him best about what he is going to do or say.

If we just react, where is our ability to reason? That quality is what differentiates us from animals, is what makes us superior to the circumstances.

If a problem comes, falling into depression, or deciding to face it with stoicism to solve it, is a decision. We see this with a group of people who have the same problem. Some react as they feel, they do not think it, they do not know why they are doing what they do, and others reason, deciding the best answer. It is easy to realize who are those who have the strengthened character.

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It is clear that this is why there are people who need to be told step by step what they have to do with their lives, so as not to get lost even in the most obvious directions.

The people around us can influence the strength of our character. So keep an eye on who is inside your social circle.

If you meet someone who does not know why he has an undesirable mood, he is a person with a weak character.

It is clear, steemian. The character forges the leaders. No one will trust the guidance of those who do not know if their decisions are taken by them or situations.

You have already realized that emotional intelligence is linked to character. Remembering Buddha, "he who gets angry loses".

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This is a phrase that goes beyond a signal for neurotics, it is a call for us to be in constant attention on the moods that we are exposed to every minute of the day. Buddha wanted to tell us that if we are very attentive, we can choose if we get out of control or, on the contrary, we think and decide the best answer.

We can change emotion in an instant. Sure you know people like that. They are unpredictable, in short individuals failures in character.

The character can be strengthened, at the same time you decide to do it. It's like a muscle. If you can not lift 10 Kg, then it's time to get strong. That is achieved by submitting to ever greater efforts, following a progressive methodology so that the day arrives that you will surpass the surveys not of 10 Kg, but of 100 Kg.

This is the character. Today a person can be fickle as a leaf in the wind. But it is not a dry leaf, it is a man, it is a woman with reasoning power, with gray matter, healthy and abundant. He may well be attentive to his feelings, to his origins that provoked him. If he is persistent, he will achieve control by being responsible when choosing how he will act according to the stimulus to which he is subjected.

We can be better, steemian. Worth the effort.Comfortable, boring life is not for us. I know it because people who read this type of reading, are people willing to grow, to change not to indulge in the banalities of false immediate rewards.