It's important to let things go.
Every single day we are confronted with conflict.
Conflict is a natural part of our existence. Even though we do tend to get used to it, we also sometimes find ourselves overwhelmed by it.
So how do we handle ourselves when confronted by conflict?
Do we withdraw into a tiny ball and curl up on the floor?
Do we lash out at others creating an even more difficult situation?
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The best course of action is to simply move forward with our lives.
This is easier said than done.
Today an interesting situation arose at my workplace.
One of our servers was very busy and quite stressed out, but she was doing a really good job taking care of all of her tables.
One of her tables noticed this. They pulled me aside and told me that they were completely delighted by what a pleasant person she was.
The table next to this one was not so impressed. In fact, they were completely upset by the fact that their food did not come out right away. They seemed really distraught by the fact that she actually had to walk to their table instead of just somehow making all of their beverages appear.
This table continuously complained. The table that had earlier exclaimed that they were delighted with the server actually told this table that they should keep their negative opinions to themselves because they were completely in the wrong.
That should have been the end of it. One table was happy, and one table wasn't. Sometimes it goes like that.
The server was not satisfied. She was so upset at the two ladies that continuously complained that she felt the need to stand near the table and stare at them with a mean expression on her face.
She kept telling me things like "I hope they say something else."
She was actually hoping to start a fight.
I tried to calm her down multiple times explaining that she makes pretty good money at this job and there's no need to put her position at risk by being inappropriate to her guests.
She didn't understand. They were mean to her, and she wanted to make sure they knew that she was going to be mean to them back.
That doesn't make sense at all.
"Let it go." I told her.
I couldn't get through to her. Fortunately these ladies left before anything else happened.
Holding a grudge in a situation like that is just completely out of line.
It's important to let things go.
That's very true, sometimes, you just have to be the bigger person and let it go instead of holding on to those grudges
I always try to advise people to do this. The main problem is that people don't like to be advised.
Good advice. Holding grudges and refusing to let things go has a negative effect on your physical and mental wellbeing, whilst not affecting the subject of the grudge in the slightest.
Also it can have possibly negative consequences.
I think that might be the point to focus on......it does not affect the other side. Many times the bad guy doesn't even know you have a grudge. So who are you affecting....just you.
valuable post well explained
Firstly, it's her job she should've considered first.
Even without being told, it's a good thing she didn't take any rational action. Because she could've been at lost and then the guest would've have gone their different ways.
But it could've cost her, her job.
It's always better to keep Your temper in check... Know when to let it go