Towards Better Human Relations : Guidelines For Getting Along Better With People

Hello Steemians!!

Everyday we meet different people, sometimes from different countries or race and each individual have his/her own peculiar way they behave. Just as we all are here on steemit. We might not get along with everyone we meet but with this tips of mine, I'm sure we will be able to get along with people no matter how they behave or where they are from.

Here are some guidelines for getting along better with people. The guidelines can be tweaked as long as it gets the desired results.

Be Polite and Well-Mannered

Nobody likes a rude or ill-mannered oerson. A person with poor manners or who lacks courtesy brings about annoyance, ill-will, anger and aversion towards himself or herself. Remember the golden words such as Please, Thank you, Sorry, Excuse Me, Good Morning/Evening and Welcome.

Remember People's Names

The human touch of calling another person by his or her name has a wonderful effect of fostering better human relationships. Use some creative methods to improve your memory of the names of the other people, for example, visualization, association, mnemonics and so on. Use the names at every opportunity.

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Be Cheerful. Remember To Smile

Being pessimistic, gloomy or sour-faced generates a negative atmosphere all round. A smile goes a long way to please and harmonize things. Having a sense of humour is a wonderful thing. We like to interact with people who are cheerful, optimistic and positive in their thinking and outlook.

Practise Appreciation

It is to be expected that generally people like to feel important and want to have their work appreciated. Sincere appreciation of another person's work, help or services rendered is very important. Words like Well done, You did a good job, Keep it up said with sincerity go a long way to soothe human relationships.

Show A Sincere Interest In Others

Nobody likes to be ignored or treated like objects or dead material. We feel good and nice when people take an interest in our welfare, show care and concern about us and our family. Likewise, we should do the same with honesty and sincerity. In this way, bonds of friendship and improvements in human relations are established.

Be A Good Listener

Too often many people soeak and talk but don't listen enough. And there are some who always like to interrupt or cut into conversation, rather rudely. The good listener, showing patience, concentration, concern and empathy is well-liked by many. When we learn to listeb well, we can learn to relate better with others.

Be Patient, Tolerant and Understanding

Patience, tolerance and understanding are among the highest virtues a person can develop. Don't lose your temper. Be compassionate towards others faults abd weaknesses. Pay little or no attention to ill-mannered remarks and learn to ignore minor irritations.

Always Be Kind and Helpful

No man is an island. We are linked to one another and are independent. Showing loving-kindness and being helpful at all times are essential ingredients in the recipe for successful and happy human relationships. Let us learn to care and share and very naturally the bonds of happy friendship will develop.

Don't Argue with People

Arguing is a no-win situation and it can negatively affect relationships. Feelings can be hurt and nothing beneficial is obtained in the end. Of course, we can disagree but learn to do so without being disagreeable. Train and practice to clarify, explain and present views with calm, positive and balanced mind.

Watch Your Speech

There is a Japanese proverb that says:

The tongue can be only 3 inches long but can kill a man 6 feet tall.

Wrong speech has caused many a human relationship to break. Don't lie: soon people will lose trust on you. Don't use harsh speech: it hurts others. Don't slander: you'll turn someone into you enemy. Don't gossip: it causes friction in relationships.

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Never Criticize Without Complimenting

It is in the nature of people love to be praused but to dislike criticisms and blame. But sometimes we need to give constructive criticisms. The way we go about it is very imprortant in order not ot affect relationships. Start off with some sincere praises or complimens. Show gently that the criticisms are for growth and development.

Avoid Controversial or Sensitive Issues

Discussing certain things that hurt the feelings of others often serves no beneficial purposes in the end. Be alert, mindful and wise towards the sensitiveness of certain individuals or groups or persons. Remember to check: Would what I discuss hurt others? Would it bring about positive benefits or would it threaten harmony?

Always Keep Promises

How many relationships have been starined or even broken due to one party failing to uphold pledges or keep promises? Constant or habitual failure to keep appointments or promises sow the seeds of mistrust and conflict in a relationship. Feelings of He's a liar, She cannot be trusted, He has let me down, She doesn't care and so on will soon make dent in a relationship.

Treat Others with Respect

Ebery human being has dignity and has to be treated with respect. A person who is prejudiced and shows discrimination based on class, status, race, language or any other irrational criteria will soon be shunned by other people. Basic education teaches us to respect elders - our parents, teachers, friends and employers. In fact, respect should be extended to all people.

See The Good in People

It is good to reflect on this: In every so-called good person, there are some weaknesses. In every so-called bad person, there is some good or some strength. If we can see this, then we harbour no ill-will, resentment, enmity or hatred towards others. We learn to forgive and forget. Unfortunately, many oeiple can only see the bad or seem to focus only on the bad or on the weaknesses of others. They should relaize that it is easy to see faults in others but hard to see their own faults.

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Admit Mistakes

It is a fact that no one is perfect. There is a proverb which says

To err is human, to forgive is divine

When we make mistakes, we must have the courage to admit them and apologize. I am sorry and Please forgive me are soothing balms in human relationships. Apologies have to be honest and sincere coupled with the resolution not to commit the mistakes again. To reduce our mistakes and errors, we need to put on greater effort to be more heedful and mindful of other people and our behaviour towards them.

Do Unto Others As You Would Have Others Do Unto You

This maxim for human relationship is of the utmost importance. If all members of the human soviety were to practise this, then there would be peace, harmony and happiness. We need to always reflect on this in whatever we do that involves others. In this way, we check that we do not, out of foolishness, do something that brings harm or hurt to other people.

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Thanks For Reading, Do Have a Wonderful Day

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