Building trust again: 3 ways to cope with betrayal!
Introduction
Betrayal hurts! It hurts really badly. Being let down by someone we completely trust is one of the toughest experiences to live with. It shatters our emotions and it becomes a real struggle to come to terms with happened. Unfortunately, the damage has already been done and its difficult to change the past. But happily, we can change or influence how things turn out in the future. So if you have been betrayed by a close friend, family member, relative or someone you trust, how can you overcome the situation and build trust again? Here are 3 tips that could help.
1. Take your time to heal: It takes time to build trust. It also takes time to heal from shattered trust. It is especially difficult if the betrayer is someone you see everyday or someone in the neighborhood. So do not expect to be fine in the next hour after the betrayal. It hurts your feelings, so you need time to recover. Give yourself time. Perhaps. if it is possible to do so, leave the immediate environment to a place where you can gather your thoughts together. Try to take care of yourself. Engage in activities that will take your mind away from it such as sports or other things you enjoy. As time goes, you will gradually get over it.
2. Check if your trust was misplaced: Were there warning signs that this particular individual was not honest, was backbiting or fraudulent? Has he or she done it before or was this the first time? Perhaps, it could help to look at your list of friends and people you trust now. You want to be careful with people you place your feelings in their hand. If there are ones you think are not worth it, try to distance yourself from them and build trust with people that deserve it. If you avoid toxic people now, are are likely avoiding heartbreak in the future.
3. Do not retaliate: At first, you felt you did not deserve to be let down by this person. You want to fight back. You want some retribution. Well, retaliation is not the answer to betrayal. It will only make things worse and make you feel more angry. SO let it go. Do all you can to heal from the situation. Do not allow yourself to be overwhelmed. There are positive things you can do to heal such as the 3 points discussed here and more. Again, give it time. You will definitely overcome it.
Conclusion
Life is full of people that hide what they are. With determination and real efforts, you can get over betrayal and earn to trust the right people. remember, it is better to prevent it if you can than suffering heartbreak. So again, trust friends that are trustworthy and ditch those that are not. Betrayal hurts, but you can overcome it with determination.
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When I was betrayed, I decided to payback. The feeling was too strong to let go just like that.
Great advice mate yes betrayal is hard but makes for a better person makes you stronger.
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@focusnow, No matter which relationship, we equally participate in it and definitely sometimes one party deeply or emotionally hurt next one but we have to understand one thing and that is when we showcase our real nature and let go then definitely we are helping ourselves and next point is, after some time people get clarity and people can understand their mistakes through self realisation otherwise if someone fights then there is no space for the mature communications.
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My father sold all my belongings for christmas. I coped by moving away and building back up.
The betrayal is stinks, is that the loss of confidence that occurs with the "traitor" makes it very difficult to reconcile with that person. With time you can forgive but never will be the same betrayal hurts.