Introduction

When he was the education supervisor of the National Apprenticeship Program of Pdvsa Gas, in the city of Anaco, Edo Anzoátegui, Venezuela; and since the program was aimed at young people between the ages of 16 and 18, I recognized the need to form a team of professionals who direct their efforts to provide assistance to both young people and their parents.

Multiple problems of relationships between young people and their parents were detected, reflecting certain ruptures in their family ties. In this sense, we focus on having a solid program that provides young people with tools, skills and knowledge, not so much to be successful in their performance in the program, but to allow them to succeed in the family. Core and in society.

For this reason, we will analyze in vol. 1 (Education) to which the subject refers: Ruptures dangerous in family ties.

Four stories of the many that exist are presented, so that each reader reviews their current family situation and how we can help other families improve their relationships. At the end of the four stories, we will share our reflections and comments that allow us to raise and train successful children in life.

Story 1

The case of a young woman who was seriously injured in a car accident is known. In his last moments, he said to his mother: "Mom, you taught me everything I needed to have a good time in life: how to light a cigarette, how to hold a cocktail glass and how to have sex without getting pregnant, but You never taught me how I should die, teach me soon, mom, because I'm dying. "

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Story 2

Police arrested a 17-year-old boy for committing a crime and sent him to a detention center until it was his turn to be tried. The teenager suddenly entered a state of uncontrolled rage. He took out a piece of pipe and with it broke all the windows of the place where he was. Then he spent four hours hitting and breaking everything he had within his reach, until the police managed to reduce it with the help of tear gas. When asked about the reason for his silly behavior, he replied: "I did it because I have nothing to lose, I already lost the only thing that could have stopped me: my parents."

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Story 3

Another child wrote the following: "I will tell you why teenagers get fed up with alcoholic beverages and do bad things, you, the parents, start wars and set a bad example when it comes to moral issues and honesty. Wait for us, the children, to act as angels, we are imitating what you do, why do not you practice what you preach?

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Story 4

A girl dropped heavily on a chair in a psychologist's office. "I'm the most unfortunate girl in this city," she complained, "I'm going to work, I'm going home and I have no reason to live." Many times I have to intervene so that my parents do not get hurt and to avoid that My little brother is whipping my sister. "Then he added in the midst of tears:" We had a happy home, my father took us to church and we all understood each other very well. "Then something happened to dad, he got tired of life and got bored with mom." "He started drinking and she went out with other men, now I hate to stay at home, but I think it is essential to do it to prevent my family members from destroying each other."

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Reflections and considerations:

The four stories reveal and reflect the ruptures that occur in many family nuclei. And in one way or another, educators have tried to help rebuild all this family chasm, providing the best recommendations to parents to accompany their children to the most appropriate specialists, with the best intention of getting the right bridge. To repair the relationships with your children. The work is not easy, you always find parents who do not accept the reality that there are ruptures in their family ties.

It is also important to recognize that there are very close families, where the family bond is the most appropriate, where love and respect play a fundamental role. You can say, dear reader, that this is your family case, where harmony and respect are the pillars in your relationships with your children.

Now, both educators and parents have the enormous challenge of channeling the behavior of those children with the highest degree of rebellion, which in one way or another affect their relationships in the family, school and society.

As teachers, we have had to direct and teach the children and young people who have risen, without the presence in the home, either of the father or of the mother or of both. Also situations of very permissive parents with children, who provide all the economic and material comforts, but have neglected the code of human ethics, that is, love and respect. In the same way, driving children or young people, in those who receive physical abuse at home, or who continually witness fights between their parents, leads them to reflect aggressive and violent behavior both at school and in their relationships with their peers.

The question is: What tools do parents need to effectively rebuild their family ties?

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Modern parents need a change

Certainly, times have changed, but what has not changed are the human relationships that constitute the roots of character formation. Children still need parents, because the affective relationships they have maintained with them allow them to acquire the traits that will make them normal. Children still need direction, discipline and also support and encouragement, to grow, mature and be independent of the family to become autonomous adults.

All this leads us to the conclusion that today's parents need a change, and even so they depend on the same methods to raise their children and solve the family problems that their parents and grandparents used. Maybe they do not know that the sciences that deal with human behavior have collected a lot of information about interpersonal relationships, motivation and communication. But in addition to information and new principles, parents need help to develop methods that are useful and practical for them at home and with their own children.

Parents who recognize, who need to generate changes and go to experts in human behavior, to receive all the necessary tools, from the simplest to the most complex methods, will end up understanding that they will be rewarded when they see their children mature. . Successfully and making way in life.