SCHOOL FOR PARENTS: Education based on love and respect.

For children to grow up happy and treat people well, you must educate them about their personality and not abuse punishment. It is important that they follow the rules, not out of fear, but because they understand their justice.

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Many believe that the main thing in raising a child is severity, only with their help can success be achieved. You are wrong. With the help of rigor and punishment, one can achieve obedience, but such a polite child will always feel fear and doubt.

For some reason, in many families, they consider that the "obedient child" is what we must fight.

But often the obedient child has low self-esteem and feels unhappy. With such an education, the walls are built around him, and he feels isolated.

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Such children, as a rule, do not take the initiative. They get used to the fact that they are always told what to do and what not to do.

Happy children, on the other hand, take the initiative constantly, explore the world around them and feel happy to communicate with others. If a child is thrown at every step, threatened with punishment, it is his "undercut wings" that undermine his self-esteem.

Parents should choose this type of education, which allows the child to grow as a person, which gives him a sense of self-confidence and that in this world he can be happy and bring happiness to others.

Let's talk about the basic principles of education, which should be followed. And what to do in any case impossible.

Rigor in education.

We all want our children to obey us, to comply with the rules we establish.

This is normal, but it is important that these rules do not contradict each other and that parents adhere to them.

• The child must understand the validity and necessity of these rules.
• You must understand what your parents expect of you and why you must comply with this or that rule.

"I have to obey my mother, because she only wants good things for me". "I have to pick up my toys every night because it's good when the room is in order." "When others say, you need to shut up, then I'll listen to what they say and show them respect."

• Children should not obey their parents only for fear of punishment. Psychology based on the principle of "stimulus reaction" is not always adequate in the educational process.

• If children are punished for every mistake, for every mistake, reproached, punished, they are afraid and hide anger towards their parents.

Let's dwell on this in more detail.

Education based on fear makes the child miserable.

It is believed that early childhood lasts from the first month of a child's life to 7 years. Everything that happens during this period with a child greatly influences his later development.

• All parents want their children to obey them, to do what they are told.

• In this way, we avoid all risks and children are integrated into family life.

But babies often want to go beyond what they are allowed to, prove themselves and observe their parents' reaction.

• If each one of them transcends the established limits, it implies a severe punishment, cries and reproaches of the parents, the children can react to this in different ways.

• They can feel the anger and anger directed towards us, or they can withdraw.

• A child in his early childhood should not be afraid every day of his life.

• Fear undermines self-esteem and causes stress in the child, which is very bad for the developing brain.

• Education based on punishment leads to the fact that children worry too much about the grades they receive from others due to their behavior. And they become indecisive, insecure people.

A child who discovers the world through fear becomes unhappy.

"Even if the people who love me scare me, what can I expect from this world ..."

Education based on love and respect.

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• Educating a child with respect means explaining why one should behave in one way and not the other. He should be able to explore the world around him without fear of screaming and punishing.

• Raising a child with love, we will not shout or discuss mistakes and faults.

• We will speak calmly, in a tone in which we feel our love for him.

• You need to be able to listen to the child. First, find out what you think and then, depending on this, explain what is necessary and tell them what to do.

• Do not try to make your children perfect. Most importantly, they should grow up happy and adhere to the behavioral norms adopted in the family and society.

• For children to be successful, children need to listen. If we do not, but abuse punishments, children will grow up as insecure people with low self-esteem.

• When the child is guilty, instead of scolding and punishing him, explain what he did wrong and how to act in such cases.

• Do not demand too much from the child. The calm and obedient "ideal child" does not mean "happy child".

Try to see the talents and abilities of the child and create the conditions for their development.
Try to "have contact" with your child. Understanding their needs will help you educate them properly.

 

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