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It is important to recognize that our society has created a false value system that effectively destroys human dignity. It is necessary to understand these destructive forces if we wish to help the young generation during the formative years of life.
Let's look at these values.
How society acts: if your son or daughter has been born beautiful, they enjoy a definite advantage. Human society has a great appreciation for beauty. At the age of 3 or 4 years, a child has already learned the meaning of personal beauty. The beautiful girl knows that adults treat him favorably. People smile at you, tell you it's cute or cute and make parties. But the child who lacks attractions is ignored while his brothers or friends receive all the attention. This is human nature.
Dr. James Dobson in his book entitled Hide or Seek, which once had a great sale, refers to an article published in Psychology Today in March 1972. The article, entitled "Beauty and the best", reports on some amazing prejudices against children and adolescents. Ordinary factions, which I want to share with you:
The attractive qualities of students influence their school grades.
This aspect is highlighted in the article as evidence that indicates what the author refers to.
When the adults were shown a series of images of children and asked to identify the child who had probably created an uproar in the classroom (or other similar misconduct), they very often selected an unattractive child as The responsible. In the same way, the ugly child was considered more dishonest than his beautiful companion. The author comments: "With regard to character and personal values, we assume that she is the best of the most beautiful people, and from primary school onwards there is practically no discussion about who are the most beautiful."
According to research conducted by experts and specialists, the way an adult handles a discipline problem is related to the attractive qualities of the child. Facing the same fault committed by two children, will probably deal with the softer hand with the cuter and more severely child with his less attractive partner.
As an educator and my performance with children under 9 years of age, we must reflect on the great importance of the impact of physical attraction that is clearly felt in kindergarten, which I was able to verify myself.
The 3-year-old creatures that are beautiful, enjoy greater popularity among their peers. And, unfortunately, certain physical characteristics such as fatness are recognized and rejected at this tender age.
This beauty problem becomes acute during adolescence. The young woman who has physical attractions does not take long to discover that she has the world at her feet. The handsome, athletic guy quickly learns that he is at the top. The rest of the girl goes on her way, dressed in blue denim shorts with corrective braces on her teeth and with pimples on her face. Despite the cruel way in which nature has treated them, they expect someone to notice them. What a distortion of values! Judging people by their attractive qualities is really acting on the basis of a false value.
Another critical factor we use to measure the value of an individual is their intelligence. Parents become very sensitive and upset if someone casually mentions that their child has less mental capacity than other children.
The sooner a baby manifests its different abilities, the more it receives from its parents. Parents greatly establish the value of their child because of the child's ability to make it look good.
It is important to know that each child will feel the pinch of rejection and ridicule during their life, but some children, because they are not beautiful or are not very intelligent, live feeling them every day of their lives. The child whose intelligence is below average, may feel trapped in the whirlwind of depression, as a victim of another false value created by our society. The value of an individual should not be measured by his IQ.
3. Other problems.
- Some children are predisposed to have emotional problems due to circumstances beyond their control. Factors such as physical deformity or certain oddities can ruin a child's life.
- The shortage of money can be a serious obstacle in the acceptance of a child or adolescent by their peers, especially if their clothes do not meet the standards set by the groups. A child who belongs to a poor family or a home in which the parents do not perceive peer pressure so that all conform to the established style of dress, can become a social pariah.
- Other factors that affect dignity include: having grown up in a home with only the father or mother, having had a father or mother alcoholics, having a brother with mental disorders or physical defects, or being part of a different race or religion.
How to overcome false values?
Our job as parents is not to protect our children from injury and humiliation, but to prepare them to accept those unavoidable evils and rise noticeably above them. In other words, we can teach them to overcome the false values that exist in some social sectors and not allow the words and reactions of others to destroy them. So, how important is it that we teach them to develop emotionally in the face of problems?
Inferiority caused by the kind of problems we have presented can overwhelm and completely destroy a person or can provide a springboard for making valuable achievements and achieving success. The need to demonstrate that one is worthy of appreciation and that one is capable of doing something useful in life, pushes toward self-improvement and success.