It can be easy to make friends
Human beings are created to be social animals. This does not mean you have to party every night, this means that we enjoy other people's company and even though you feel that you like being alone, one or other time you will need somebody or come in contact with another person.
For some people it is very easy to make friends, because they have an outgoing personality and are not shy. These people are extroverts. Some people are shy and they prefer to be by themselves or they do not make friends so easily because they are not so outspoken. These are usually introverts.
There is nothing wrong with you if you are a shy person or do not fit into groups well, that is just who you are. We cannot all be the 'bell of the ball', but it can be difficult for you to make friends. Lets have a look at a few simple ideas that can help you.
It is as easy as 'Hi'
Most people think that if they want to start talking to another person, they must have something clever to say or have a 'pick up line', but the truth is start of by saying 'Hi' or Hello, how are you?' This shows the other person (who is maybe also shy) that you are open to be talked to. It is better than standing there and staring at the floor where people will think you do not want to be part of the discussion.
Just take this first step and you will be surprised at what happens. Most of the time the other person will start talking or asking questions and before you know it you are having a conversation.
Stay positive
DO NOT tell yourself the whole time 'Nobody is going to talk to me, they are going to ignore me. They will not want to be my friend' Be positive - that will also reflect if you start talking to others. You cannot be negative but expect a positive outcome. And if the first person you talk to, do not respond or do not want to talk to you, move on, there is a friend for everybody.
Find that interest
If you are starting to speak to someone, keep it casual and talk about everyday things. 'What is your name? Where do you come from? What grade are you in? etc' Eventually you will ask something or talk about something that you see interest them. If you talk or ask the person about their interests they will open up more and talk to you.
'Laughter is the best medicine'
Nobody says you must be giggling the whole time, but smiling and occasionally laughing about something is good. It will also make the other people smile, things will be more relaxed and it will be easier to communicate with one another. Relax about the whole thing and do what feels natural and before you know it you have made some new friends and are chatting up a storm.
There can and will be rejection
Sometimes you would like to be somebodies friend but they do not feel the same way and they ignore you or reject you. It is never nice being rejected, but it is also not the end of the world. Not all people like one another or get along and you must find the person with who you 'click'.
If someone rejects you do not take it personal. See it as their loss. If somebody do not accept you just the way you are, they will never be a good friend.
So even if it is difficult, move on and leave that person behind and find the one who will become your true friend.
And do not have this idea that if you only have 1 or 2 friends there is something wrong with you. You can have a 100 friends but not really one that cares for you. It is not the amount of friends you have, it is the quality of friendship you have with that person and that they love and care for you and do not want something from your except your friendship.
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