The Dating Game Has Changed | (Here's How You Win)
Here's what we have to understand the landscape of dating has changed a little.
I don't think people have changed. I think people... Everyone's always
People haven't changed, they're the same. The landscape's changed a little bit. When I started out the dating websites weren't huge. They were still a niche things. It was still a little embarrassing to go on a dating website. Now everyone's on Tinder. Everyone's on Bumble. Everyone's doing these things.
And here's the problem everyone's up against. A landscape that looks like there's infinite choice.
Cause it's not the same as the real choice, right? As a guy, you go on these things and you're like,
It's not true, right? A perceived choice is what messes people up. Cause Perceive choice is when a guy who's thinking about breaking up with his girlfriend look at a thousand options on his phone and says,
Right? He didn't have that twenty years ago.
Right? He had a fight with his girlfriend and she went out, and he was lonely.
He had nothing...
He had no one to talk to.
Right? The landscape is different now. There's perceives choice. There's the lack of empathy that is bred by looking at people through a screen. So now what do we do? We treat people worse because we can.
Right? So...
And you do it too. It's not just men.
We treat people worse. We ghost people. Breadcrumbing is the new term, right?
Like giving a little, giving a little, giving a little...
We say things that are older than we would ever say in person. So what happens is, men at least on the surface, seem less likely to commit today than ever because of the abundance of options. Women, I believe en masse have accepted a lower standard because they bought the drunk the kool-aid. They bought into this idea that men are just worse now and the landscape's just worse now and they have to accept less. And I don't buy it for one second.
And let me tell you why I believe, that the key right now, the key to winning in love right now. The key to getting something most people aren't getting. Ninety-nine percent of people aren't getting is to actually be higher maintenance than everybody else.
Thank you for your help... And this article is good for the singles!!! Hehehe
This is for all people my friend.
Time has changed. Days are gone when people truly know the meaning of LOVE and RESPECT for the other. LOVE they say is an abuse word but I would say it is the matter of perception and comprehension. I am a keen observer of what is happening to our surroundings now but I still believed that there are few who still value the LOVE that we gave to them and as the receiver we should not expect in return. Let your Love be UNCONDITIONAL.....
An observer is good. Then comment. Posting of your feelings can help other people. But prepare for positive and negative impact. And we must accept it.
You're right! Thanks for the reply.
Hmm I would rather get to know the person personally not juts on a dating site, sometimes some people are not honest with their pictures and info heheh
Heart of a people is a twister. (cheater)
I am curious with your opinion "People become better who demand more." I think that depends on people and sometimes too much demand can cause stress in a relationship. Nevertheless, there are people who likes to be challenged so it will be good for them if their lover demands more from them...