park the energy used in trying to EQUALIZE how you feel about it and INSTEAD embrace how you feel and put that ENERGY in to the universe, you'll find your people. maybe it's time to travel more often, create some mini meetups with people on steemit around you, take up a new hobby, move beyond backwards thinking and EMBRACE what you want for your own life and let others fit into place. you don't have to fit into anything you don't need too.