The best and worst 2 weeks of my life.
My apologies for not being involved on steemit at the moment.
I had what could possibly be - the best and worst 2 weeks of my life being on holiday with my mother, and I have come to the conclusion that I am simply not doing it again. (end of)
I had no idea how judgemental my own family could be (see footer), and it got worse when they left, and left me with an intro to someone's son who lives here, for 10 years.
His name is Mark, and I want to tell you about him for a reason, or 3
- I do not want new friends imposed on me by my mother, especially someone she had never even met, sure she got on with his mother, who stayed in the same hotel, though that has nothing to do with me.
- Mark is a new Nigel or normal you see, he has done everything the "official" route and ended up with a crap job for £2 per hour, and is struggling to live here, even when a beer is less than $1.
- he even at 46 years old, has student debt, for a course he did to learn how to teach his own language English, to people here. ( talk about backwards thinking )
To get into debt to earn a crap living, in a country you do not know, for me is just plain stupid, and I refuse to just say nice things about people making silly decisions, end of story.
My mother!
Well it turns out she has not liked my choice of woman, and not only that, we have been together 10 frigging years, not only her, she also does not like my mother in law, well join the queue on that one Mother :-)
At the best of times my mother in law does not like me, so I am assuming from evidence, mothers never like anyone's partners or family, as my mother spent hours telling me how dysfunctional all my brothers and sisters family were also.
It has taken me a week to get all the horrible vitriol out of my mind, I was depressed by the time they went home also, what ever happened to live and let live?
You can choose your friends, though not family!
I want to give special mention to people on here that I genuinely like and support, it might or might not get me some upvotes, but to be fair I am not bothered either way, as anything I make on this post will be given to a charity of my choice anyway, as I simply do not need or want the money.
@fulltimegeek my biggest supporter by far, pay him some upvote attention if you would, he is one of the nicest characters on here.
@v4vapid my second biggest supporter, who writes truth posts, and encourages integrity.
@arthur.grafo I call him dad, as he is like the dad I never had, he also writes books and is a great person to boot.
@alejandr0 He is a truther, who has never quite got the support, maybe give him a nudge in the right direction.
@palikari123 another honest guy with integrity, check out his posts.
@freebornangel another free thinker, who supports new people like fulltimegeek.
@bashadow who has never got enough credit on here, as he supports so many new people.
@Practicalthought, who is like a father also, and a wonderful human being.
@angryman, a great all round genuine person, who has some fantastic stories to tell, listen up now, as he will like me, not be around forever.
@abh12345 he is the master of codes, check him out.
@lucylin my kindred spirit in Asia, a good sound character.
@dill3166 up and coming new comer.
@sift666 one of my besties on here also, deffo needs checking out.
I know I have missed many more great people, though you know I can do this all over again, at a later date.
I am back, and full of life, so will be writing more, some or even most content will be via the deliberator account I sold, and any upvotes will be given to a charity of my choice on steemit. Stay awesome good people.
I can't help but notice you said it was both the best and worst 2 weeks, but then only described the worst parts. Too bad about the family issues.
The best part is I am not doing it again, as I need to support my family I live with, and not listen to negative people, that hate the place they live in, yet still vote for the parasites that make it so bad there.
Wow I dont know were to start. My dad died last september, I had not talked to him for 5 years. Only spoke to him and spent very little time with him in the last 30 years. He would send my wife text messages when he bought new cars and send pictures of them. The last time I talked to him I was trying to tell him something I learned. I asked him if he read the email I sent him about it. He told me I throw all that shit you send me to the trash bin. Then I asked him Dad "dont we learn every thing we know from someone else?" He told me "not me no one ever taught me anything I can even fix my washer and dryer with no instructions"
Now this ass hole was in the Military for 23 years a policeman for 8 years then 10 years building jets for the military and had a college degree but no one taught him anything.
That was the last time I saw him I dont have one regret he was a fucking asshole. I was his only son but he favored my older sister Just like the Protocols taught him to. I have the same name as him.
Life was hell for me, until I quit trying to make everyone happy.
Now I focus on my wife and kids. The rest of them can have their cake and circuses I will build my own legacy.
The rest of my family has falsely talked to me from time to time but all had no desire to deal with the truth. Any conversation would quickly end with an argument and it being my fault because I don't follow the crowd.
I had to deal with my sisters when my father died, I didn't want to.
I do not go to cry parties, funeral , wake or any of that bullshit.
I enjoy the living and if they are dead they don't know if you are there or not.
My brother in law complained to me that he wiped my fathers ass when he was on his last days.
I didn't say it but I was thinking "your wiping the ass of the dying and I am wiping the ass of the living. I had a 2 year old in diapers and in one month from then my 4th child was born.
Honestly once you take that red pill and stop following the wide path you are rejected by most if not all who knew you before. Even the best of friends will reject the new you.
You should expect it to only get worse.
The only thing that will change it all is if you keep your opinions to yourself. Say ya ya when they express their opinions. And never disagree or give advice to those who know it all.
Good day my friend!
I am short on time at the moment as we are heading out for the afternoon, I will come back later and give you a better answer, have a superb week.
I feel honored to have made your 'special mention' list...The feeling 'is' mutual brudda...
Thank you my friend.
moms will be moms I understand you completely hahaha Great to have you back and thanks for the shoutout! we have many things to do bro.
They get grumpy when they get old lol, now lets smash this system down, and get some world peace broskie.
Glad you are feeling more yourself friend.
This made me laugh. I think more moms than not dislike the women their sons get involved with. I think it is a territorial thing. Like property, lol.
LOL I think sir, you may be correct.
I'm not sure how far back in history family matters go, I used to think they were all brought on by the destruction of the centralized family structure, (everyone kind of living close and or together), after WW2. That there was a family support system for everyone, and family tried to get along. My wife likes all the movies and shows about big lives, Kings, Queens, Statesmen, Presidents. Historical Drama's. I watch some with her. Screwy family history go back a long long way in history. So it was not the destruction of the family unit from the after math of WW2, Seems all that was did was bring the normal family society of picking, and bitching about family back.
I do not think family has ever let go of living dreams, if they were unable to live their dream, whether it is a parent or a sibling. If they lost their dream, they transfer the need for their dream to another family member, and try to live it vicariously through them. Which cause the family member to view them as not capable of living up to their potential, when it is in fact they who failed to live to their own potential.
Family will always be there, they may come through when needed, but then again, they may not. It is also not a two way street. Your mother needed you to come through for her, for her needs, she may come through for your needs one day. She may feel entitled to having you meet her needs because she is your mother, same with any other family member, but in the end they are only people.
Tough couple of weeks though bro, everyone pulling in different directions, and only me trying to knit it together so everyone could be happy, I even made my mothers bed, cooked everyone's food, drove, the car, got everyone safe to where they should be, still it seems it was not enough, and that is the bit that pisses me off, how far does one have to bend, as I too am getting old, and I will not be demanding the same from others.
I made the honour roll:) Life's up and downs...you will get through it.
Too true, though it has taken over a week to rebuild my own small family, and get my good ladies spirits back up.
Many thanks for the mention!
Families can be a pain in the arse can't they?
You know I want to fling money at you because I'm a dolphin
Major pain in the arse they are, stay awesome dude :-)
I am a new member of steemit and welcome you back! You are the best!
Thank you kindly, I hope I can support your posts, and will take a look.
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