Your Example, No Your Advice.
Your Example, No Your Advice?
How many times have you given an advice you don't even follow? I'm sure we all have given advices without following them. This works the same way when your children follow what you do and not what you say.
I think all need to be real with everyone, so everyone can be real with you. I've followed negative and positive things from my father and I keep changing things along the way knowing what's good or bad, correct or incorrect.
"Love everybody the same way you love yourself. If you don't love yourself, you have no one to love".
You change the world by changing yourself and providing a little bit of kindness everyday.
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Absolutely love your post, @javybar! 💚
Parents have been taught that they need to correct children's behavior.
But they do not need to. As it is THEIR behavior that has the most impact on their children.
When they are clear and congruent, the child will always follow.
Sure, it may take some time because changing their behavior isn't sooooo easy.
Isn't it strange this expectation that a child change their behavior on a dime but the minute they realize it is THEIR behavior that has to change...Then parents unerstand, it isn't nearly as easy as they expected!?
The parents working with focusing on their own behaviour instead of children's behaviour will see great results.
In some cases the behavior of the child changes within hours when the parent shifts their own dynamic.
The child is never the problem and never has a problem, they are simply pointing to the areas where the parents are not congruent or clear.
It really is this simple. Easy...nope.
Because parents are adults with a whole lot of conditioning it is harder work to change their behavior...and it is the most effective way to change the behavior of their children...because when they shift their conditioning and behavior...they do not pass on the dysfunctional patterns and kids shift rapidly because they have less conditioning!! ☺
Amazing analysis! You described this subject deeper than anyone. I agree with you very well. Children come with their own personality as well that may be a little different than their parents, but parents have the most influence in the children's development. Seems like more parents need to see this post :)
I’m surrounded by parents focused on their grades, and not on how they feel.
The degrees/certificates and the fact that humanity still believes they need credentials for evidence of worth is indeed what needs to be changed.
In my opinion, Parents dis-respecting or not honoring the Soul of their offsprings, especially not honoring feelings of their children will do more bad than anything.
So, parents have to bring changes in themselves first and become the living example of what they want to teach their childrens.
Thank you for sharing such a vaulable/inspirational wisdom with us @javybar! ☺ You are bringing change in this community and in people's life.
wow very nice. thank you very much. The change starts inside of us all the time.
You're welcome! @javybar! ☺
Much love, light and blessings to you! 💚🌟💫
Parents are the role models and children imitate them without filtering the good or bad because children are pure and blunt without having any hypocrisy. So their minds are plain slates where whatever we write stays forever. Parents should teach their children less with their lessons and more with the actions because children IMITATE!
Try to be a good role model. Interesting topic @javybar.
Awesome quote!!: Parents should teach their children less with their lessons and more with the actions. I loved it. thank you!
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Advice and guard are the best way for every children learning way, need to give a better think of their children, this post are really informative for every parents of child @javybar
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@javybar,
I have a lots of memories about giving introductions and not following them! I do follow my father, and I see my son follows me too :D Great article friend! You are giving us something to think everyday!
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