I thought about the "hear say" and the "accusations" that have been allegedly thrown around and from what I see in your post obviously the case, not just a case of "hear say" and the following is what I concluded:

It all comes down to a "football supporter" type of mentality.

Why do I say this, well, just like in football, we all support a team and when it comes to some international match then we all unite and support the/our national team.

Well, I saw the united front when we Steemians were voting on a poll put out by Netcoins.

The entire blockchain was spammed with posts, comments, wallet messages and likewise all the other social medias were bombarded too.

Yet now when it is an internal match being played, then it all comes down to a "supporter" or even a "hooligan" mentality at times.

So, don't feel bad about it all.

Not worth losing your time or patience with any of it, as I keep saying:

"Technology changes, human nature doesn't".

Life is what it is and people will be people, no matter what one does it all comes down to "yesterday is in the past and it is what a person does today that matters".

Cheers, wish you a safe trip to Europe.

Gods speed.