The Qualities I Wished You and I Had

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The qualities I admire in other people are the ones I wish you and I had - I really do

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1. Being secure and content in oneself

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Specifically, the one quality I really admire is being secure in oneself and content without success.

A regular teacher. A waiter making ends meet. A construction worker.

A greater part of people urgently wish they had more.

They need more cash, they need to be more appealing, they need more achievement. They need almost everything.

But there are some that are content with what they have or possess.

Also, I find that an unfathomably alluring and praiseworthy quality.

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2. Gentle manners

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Gentle manners is about behaving or acting in a way that is socially adequate and demonstrates thought, regard, and care for others.

For the most part, gentle manners will improve your relationship with people.
Whenever I see someone or people who treat other people as human beings, I can’t help but succumb for them. I just love it.

When we treat other people rightly, I am sure the world will be a considerably more better and safer place to live in. we wouldn't have any need to fight.

A gentle manner is about treating a person with some level of regard or respect.

It is one quality that is sought over everywhere, at home, work, school and wherever we find ourselves.

The good news is that with appropriate grooming and prepping, we can all build up this quality.

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3. Humility

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Numerous different qualities run as an inseparable unit with Humility, similar to Simplicity and Kindness.

I feel a human, regardless of his identity, winds up plainly awesome when he/she consolidates lowliness in his/her life. It just spreads so much positive air around.
I will like to quote Sirius Black (/J. K. Rowling) here

If you want to know what a man's like,
take a good look at how he treats
his inferiors, not his equals.

 - J. K. Rowling

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I think the wonderful story of Shri Ishwar Chandra Vidyasagar, the pillar of the Bengal Renaissance, is worth sharing here too:

There lived another certain pundit from across the country who had also studied Sanskrit grammar in great detail. However, despite all his struggles, he was unable to decipher certain portions of the Panini Sutras (Panini’s grammar rules). Immediately, he thought of the great Sanskrit pundit, Ishwar Chandra and wrote to him to see if he was available for a brief discussion. Ishwar Chandra invited this other pundit to come to Calcutta so that they could talk in leisure and discuss the grammatical doubt in greater detail. Ishwar Chandra also volunteered to receive the pundit at the railway station and take him to his house. This pundit was overjoyed after getting Ishwar Chandra’s reply and made preparations to go to Calcutta. But, the pundit was a very haughty man, and he was proud of himself for being a scholar. Even though he had struggled to understand a few rules from the Panini sutras, now that he had got Ishwar Chandra’s reply, he became overconfident about his scholarship and became even more proud. He dressed exquisitely during the train journey, so that he was well dressed when meeting Ishwar Chandra.

As promised, Ishwar Chandra was waiting at the railway station to receive this pundit. Ishwar Chandra always dressed very modestly, and this proud pundit mistook him to be a coolie and disregarded him when he waved. The pundit looked around searching for a well-dressed Ishwar Chandra. He assumed that a person as respected and as famous as Ishwar Chandra would wear shiny clothes and costly shoes. He could not find anyone dressed as exquisitely as he himself was, and so beckoned the coolie and ordered to carry his luggage and asked him “Do you know where the famous Ishwar Chandra lives?” and he nodded in the affirmative. Ishwar Chandra quietly obeyed the pundit and carried his luggage to his own house. On the way, this pundit would not stop blowing his own trumpet. He said “I am a Sanskrit scholar. Do you know how difficult it is for people to study the Sanskrit grammar rules? It was written by a genius man called Panini. I am one of the very few people in this country who understands that. Another person who understands them is Ishwar Chandra and I am here to see him so that I can have these intellectual conversations with someone who is equal to me in intelligence.” Ishwar listened to the pundit’s continuous self-praise but did not become angry or agitated. He still did not reveal his true identity, but quietly carried the luggage to his house.

Upon reaching his house, he opened the door and invited the pundit inside courteously. It was then that the pundit realized – the person he had been singing his own praises to was none other than the great Ishwar Chandra himself. He felt very ashamed of himself when he saw how such a genius like Ishwar Chandra could dress so simply, conduct himself so modestly and respect everyone else so humbly, even when we was being treated like a coolie. He was astounded also by the simplicity of his residence and the simplicity of his habits. After staying with Ishwar Chandra for a couple of days, and after clarifying his grammar doubts, the pundit returned home, a more humble man himself.

The story conveys it all.

Story's Source:

The Pundit who was mistaken for a Coolie

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4. The ability to accept and discharge responsibility

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A Person who has this quality is a conceived pioneer with control over his activities. He doesn't have to utilize words to tell individuals that he can be trusted, in any case, he wins trust with his activities. I truly appreciate such individuals. They assume liability and know how to deal with it with most extreme devotion and in the event that anything turns out badly, they additionally assume the liability to acknowledge and correct it.

With responsibility comes maturity, with maturity comes the ability to comprehend the value of little things in life, and then you know where to search for joy or happiness.

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5. Thoughtfulness

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I am touched when a person sees the inclinations, the whimsies, the feelings of dread, the delights, the distresses, the interests or the affections of another, and afterward effectively tries to mediate for good in such individual's reality. It can be something as basic as surrendering one's seat to a harried mother on a swarmed transport, to picking the ideal present for a friend or family member, to recalling the commemoration of the passing of a darling pet.

Thoughtfulness is a delicate, regularly neglected quality. Thoughtfulness is as rich as it is uncommon. A genuinely thoughtful individual shows an adoring, delicate sympathy which can have a genuine effect in another's day, or even in their life.

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6. Being willing to accept you are wrong.

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Having the capacity to acknowledge you are incorrect or wrong is a quality that is far and in between nowadays. People get set in their opinions, and regardless of the fact that they are proven wrong, they BS for minutes about how being incorrect wasn't generally their fault, and then they accuse another person

Case in point:

These are two different individuals after they are shown that 2+2=4 and not 5.

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Person 1 : Wow, my math teacher was pretty useless. He taught so awfully that I didn't even know that 2+2=4. Useless teacher.

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Person 2: Wow, I can't believe I didn't know that. I should have given more attention in math class.

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Unfortunately, a large portion of the world takes after the case of individual 1. It's never their blame they weren't right, it's dependably somebody else's. Responsibility has gone out of the window. It's particularly terrible in politics, but that's a talk for another day.

Individuals who will eat the humble pie, and admit they weren't right, are great individuals. I believe and regard them increasingly more than individuals who constantly accuse other persons.

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And finally,

7. Emotional strength

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Life can sometimes be a bitch. It can put many obstacles in the way of your plans. It will startle you from time to time. It will take a cheap shot when you are not looking.

I appreciate the individuals who acknowledge what it is and manage it.

No crying or agonizing more than should be expected. Just not surrendering to conditions and cynicism takes quality.

This however doesn't come simple. Some are born fighters, others have learnt to be survivors. I appreciate this attribute the most.

Thanks For Reading

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