I suck at self-control, so I quit trying that, and moved onto self-choreography, wherein I take the most difficult-to-work-with, embedded aspects of my personality that tend to shoot me in the foot, and I figure out the way to work with them, side-step them, dance effortlessly around them.

When you figure out your own psychology, you can try to start adding in your own programming to the programming that's not so easy to remove.

Overtime, the new dance moves sometimes overtake and do away with the old, negative habits of movement, they are drowned out, and a new and more effective dance evolves.

Focus on the old bad habits doesn't often change them, but pointing my focus on flooding my life with new habits that wash out the old ones over time, is precisely what worked for me.