For Every Last Person Begging For Money -- Get A Glimpse Into What I Have Been Through In The Past Year

in #steemit8 years ago (edited)

Just because a person lives in America does not mean we have money flowing out every orifice. No one seems to understand how much it costs to live here -- not even some of us that live here!?

Please feel free to post this article every time that you see someone begging for money -- I am all for wealth through charity, but I am not a fan of this new flux of gimmies.

These are going to be the highlights because really what I want others (those begging especially) to see just how much money it takes to run a household (with a child and a dog).

First, I had to move back in with the Narcissist and her enabler, March 2016 -- one of the biggest mistakes of my life. At the time, I did not even realize just how badly I was treated as a kid, until it was full on again. Whoa...man. Just Frac'n whoa. They never had one nice word to say. They were constantly shushing a 9 month old -- any of you shush a child under three and we will have words (except in an emergency situation). Kids make noise -- talk to them, reinforce good habits -- don't minimize their feelings.

Then, I picked an awful daycare (on accident) -- little man totally, unbonded from me -- it was one of the worst moments of my life. I worked my ass off to rebond with my child. Success! And I got my first freelance writing contract! More success.

Then August 2016 came, and I had already made the decision that I was moving out. At the time, I was going to stay in the area of the negative ninnies because they are elderly and my family. I wanted to help them. Then on August 6, 2016 -- that changed in a heartbeat.

The enabler wanted us to have a conversation. I kept saying no. I finally told them that we were moving out, but I would stay in the area and we would come over often. I, also, said that I would help with chores. Nope, enter the Narcissist -- stage drama -- how dare you take Zeph from us? What? You do know we are only moving maybe 15 minutes away, right?

They kept pushing, and I finally had enough when he said that I was unsanitary. WTH -- yes, I can be messing, I WORK from home and refuse to do chores during the day -- but I am not a filthy vermin. Although funny haha, I did bring bedbugs into the house from the place I was staying in Texas -- We got rid of them, but I did enjoy the Karma moment after all the mean things they are always saying and doing.

I ended up calling 911 to request an escort out of their home. Thus began my slog through the next seven months of staying in domestic abuse shelters, with my little man and my dog (she spent 5 months in a great daycare that to this very day, I owe them soooo much). I have had Zero Contact with them sense I picked up our stuff on August 8. And with a self-centered being that is the way you have to go.

I took out a title loan (blessed to have my car from years ago -- another life another story). Made our way to Iowa. Do you know how I managed to get my apartment??? A taxi hit my car in the parking lot. Yes -- really. $2,200 bucks because I could prove that I always take my baby to Ford -- it matters.

Now, while I do have a great client and I am working on developing other income sources -- my kid was sick and in the hospital a week ago. That set me back (no work time) by $900. Which leads me to what I pay in bills because I really do not think the beggers have a clue as to what it is like to live in America, to be poor and not poor:

These are the bills that I am responsible for Monthly and other needs:
Rent $763
Electric $33 (okay I got lucky)
Gas $40 (again I am blessed and I know it)
Internet and business line $90
Cell $90 (two lines -- unlimited plan)
Title Loan $220
Childcare $1,250
Auto Insurance $47
Food $300
Car Fuel $80
Don't forget pampers, wipes, diaper cream, dog food, household goods like shampoo and soap....this is easily $200 or more.

And I am a month behind on all of these -- so the next time someone wants to beg, or scam -- maybe they should really look at their situation and see what they could do differently to truly change their circumstances.

Have a bunny to bring abundance....He likes to come to our door. Such a wonderful world to live in.

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This is really heart touching, and I feel this post deserves more attention than it currently gets !!
I hope you get the attention you need !

Thank you. I would prefer more attention for better work. My goal was just to help others (outside the US) understand how much more our lives cost and that not all lives here are the same.

I appreciate you being here.

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I can relate, on another level - I was living paycheck to paycheck on $50k/yr modestly supporting just myself (no vehicle) a year ago and went from that to a total $200.66 all of this year (3 shifts washing dishes). I have no family as an only child (and grandchild) and worked so hard in life I never invested proper time in ever developing my own strong relationships / family. I am staring down the barrel of homelessness for the first time at age 47 with no employment opportunity in sight. I have about $200 left available on my credit card and then it's . . .
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Upwork.com

Don't give up.

That site LQQKs promising, thank you so much for the tip. I like networking here with smart inspiring people like you! Faith always / STEEM On!!

There is also fivrr..... go to one of my posts a about 4 days ago, there are several work resources on there. It has the begging theme again too.

Excellent, I have decided to offer my services as a freelance 'Life-Coach' - wish me luck yippieeeeee

Thank you for the suggestion, but this is not about what I need. My goal is an illustration of why begging for money or loans is not how you win friends and influence people...

I do appreciate the site, but those bills require cold hard cash. America thrives on the fiat -- time for a change.

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What i can say , its crazy the nombers !
In Bulgaria you can easy live with 500 $ per month and you will have everiting cover . Btv this Childcare is crazy expensive . You rent a nany or ?
Here the dayli childcare places are free .From 8 to 5 you can bring the kid in 5 days a week .

That it a childcare center. But this one is cheap. Some are 500 per week. And this one has a great owner and wonderful staff.

Realy crazy ........I have 2 kids but alwredy at 9 and 12 . After read this im choked .My economic situation is not great but just because my expenses are not so big i menage to cover so far .

Exactly. My goal was to provide a more realistic picture of America. And really it is harder when starting over from scratch. Which is the point that I am at.

Hope you get more support here , your contents are good .

Thank you for those kind words.

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