Want to Change?, Figure Out What You Want Changed

A friend of mine the other day began talking to me about much he wanted something to change in his life. He didn't know what. He just wanted something to change. So I asked him if had at a minimum an inkling of what he wanted to change in his life. No, not really. I'm just bored with what I'm doing. he said.

Before I could get a word in he added, It seems that other people seem to have more going on than I do. It makes no sense. It's unfair.

Wow! I thought.

I could tell that he was not in the mood for a pep talk or an uplifting story of how much he does have going for him. We guys are like that at times. We just like to make a statement and we really aren't looking for any type of feedback. This is our modern form of a primitive grunt to relieve our angst. Ha!

After saying goodbye to him I began to think about how many people are in the same position. The great paradox is that people want things to change, but they themselves refuse to make any changes. They refuse to take accountability for the consequences of their own inaction.

Waiting or hoping for things to get better is not the wisest of strategies. I wanted to let him know that but again, he wasn't in the mood to hear it.

The things change things that you change refuse to make a change. Why do we fear change? Here are a few reasons: fear, comfort zone, complacency, waiting for inspiration and so forth. Now most of us consciously aware of the reasons, but yet we seem to ignore their HOLD on our ability to move forward and change.

Here s my suggestion. Figure out what you want changed, but more importantly on the outcome you desire. Once you figure out the outcome, you work backwards to figure out how to bring it about.

For example, if you want to be financially independent, then start with a specific number in mind. Let s say that your definition of financial freedom is the ability to make six-figures a year. That means you have to generate a little over $ 8,000 ($ 100,000 divided by 12) a month.