Facing The Challenges In Courtship As Christians(continuation)

Today i will like to continue sharing with you how to face and overcome the challenges we as Christians face in courtship.

4.Anger And Bitterness
Anger is deadly to any and every kind of relationship. Outbursts of anger have ruined many peaceful relationships. Malice and bitterness have done more harm in relationships than was intended.

Every relationship needs the practise of forgiveness to survive the pressures of life and prosper. Relating with someone that is given to anger is not the best decision.

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We must understand the fact that anger is injurious to love and human health. Such a person should get help and reach out to his or her Pastor, get Christian books and messages addressing this issue and apply lessons learnt from them to their lives.

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An angry person can never be truly happy unless they deal with the anger first.

5.Self-centredness: selfishness, self-willed and egocentricity
We must all die self to have a peaceful relationship with people. Self-consciousness and self-centredness creates a lot of friction in relationships and blinds the eyes from the needs and feelings of others. Self-willed people are difficult to live with, they always insist on their own way even when it is wrong.
It doesn't pay to be egocentric, try to be considerate. Look out for the interests of others and you will have peaceful relationships.

6.Strong desire to sleep together
One of the major problems that people face in courtship is a strong desire to sleep with each other in the name of love. It is important that you remind yourself always that you are not yet married and that sex is only approved by God for married people within the boundaries of marriage.

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Here are some of the reasons for this temptation:
i. Having a sexual history
ii.Having and unrenewed mind as far as sex and relationships within the Christian context is concerned
iii.Obsession with the physical features if your partner
iv.Undressing in the presence of your fiance.
v.Fondling, caressing and kissing which stir up strong emotions for sex
vi.Watching pornography-related content together.
vii.Having a few belief that sex before marriage is not even as long as you both have the intention to get married.

Make it a rule not to undress or change clothes in each others presence. Meet each other in public and be careful about your discussions and select movies you watch together with wisdom.
Spend a good portion of the time you spend together to study God's word and pray.
Have a strong conviction never to have sex before marriage because, it can bring a curse on your intended marriage.

May God helps us all make the right decisions in our lives Amen.
To be continued

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