Today my dear friends, I am going to talk about a situation that we have seen in everyday life perhaps in someone we know and even more in such complicated and difficult times, as in the case of: Self-Compassion, often called Victimism, that is to say , people who sometimes use this behavior as a defense mechanism and to not take responsibility for a problem. It would be a way of self-deception, because, instead of focusing on solving that which afflicts us, we project a protective and compassionate attitude towards ourselves.

Victimization is a behavior that involves a certain danger. In the first place, we consider ourselves victims of something and, secondly, we regret that. The problem is that maybe we are not victims, but the cause of a problem. Thus, victimhood acts as a trick, but we are the ones who are deceived. Whoever presents himself as a victim, convinces himself that his suffering is caused by others or by a motive alien to him, so this type of excuses are valued by psychologists as an egocentric behavior (his egocentricity is very particular, because it is based on vanity but on the idea of the role of the victim).

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I know people who have problems in their personal lives, and who does not have them, perhaps there are those who have many problems and others who do not, but at the end we have them all, it is part of life, but those people who spend all day complaining about what happens, they live complaining, even crying in all corners, and do nothing to find solutions and help to solve them and minimize the effects and consequences of what happens to them, even advise them, support them, but still continue in the same, it seems that they do not want to leave that hole they are in.

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There are many examples and evidence of people who have suffered an accident and have been in wheelchairs, without arms, without legs, etc. even so they have gone ahead and more satisfaction and pride have achieved successes, goals that many thought impossible that they could achieve. For all this and more, perhaps you have been or have seen people overcome many adversities and stand, and I think that if life or God our Lord puts us in difficult situations almost impossible to achieve or overcome and we fight and get it is for something, since he is testing us and demonstrating what we are capable of doing and achieving with only having faith, confidence in ourselves and in our principles, teachings, strengths, abilities, challenges and wills to do things and even more to achieve success with effort and good conviction.

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We trust more in ourselves, in our faith to our Lord, stop complaining so much and find solutions to our calamities to avoid self-pity, behavior that is not good for our emotional health, or for family and friends.