FOR MEN: Relationships and wrong priorities
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FOR MEN: Relationships and wrong priorities
When we were a lot younger, our choices for a woman in our lives were based on physiological attributes, mine was even funny.
I felt the woman i was going to meet would be dark in complexion, she must be of the yoruba tribe in Nigeria, she must be big breasted(Lord, show me mercy), has a huge ass and with amazing curves. Just imagine my life!!!
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The older i became and with the right company and godly perspective, a lot began to drop from my “childish list”, my priorities began to change and with plenty ups and downs in my emotional life i came to a point where i understood the essence of life and it has actually worked for me, yes i’m in love and i am at peace.
Okay, away from me... Stats has shown that most people are very unhappy in their relationships because of certain wrong priorities.
Mr A always wanted a big boobed lady, he has gotten her, yet after sometime, he wants more and he is no more happy.
Mr B likes them slender and yet he isn’t happy.
Mr C loves them thick and yet thickness has thickened his peace and it is no more flowing like a river.
Am i saying your choices for a lady’s physical attribute ain’t necessary? Not at all, whatever that works for you and also makes you sleep well at night, go for it.
But life lessons has taught me these:
- A woman’s bodily features will never give you lasting satisfaction
- Her physiology won’t make you better
- Her beauty won’t even give you peace
- Her curves doesn’t make you a covenant child of God, neither will her ass give you any assurance.
What should Men prioritize?
Godliness: If she isn’t godly, she’s not a risk worth taking, it is only the fear of God that can keep you both, not love, not sex and not endowments.
Capacity for building: When God made Eve for Adam, He wanted a helper for Adam. So in simpler terms, if Adam was an Engineer operating at 45%, having Eve in His life led to so much improvement that takes him up to 65-80% and they keep getting better and vice versa.
Unity of purpose: If you as a man don’t know your purpose for living, forget relationship, you’ll ruin any woman that comes your way. Same way a man shouldn’t seek a woman without purpose. Now, if you both know your purpose, can it be blended together? Does it compliment one another? You can’t be heading to Kano state, Nigeria and enter a bus going to Obudu, Cross river state. Find unity of purpose.
The rest can now follow:
Love(very important), you obviously shouldn’t marry who you don’t love, tolerance, taking responsibility, body physiology, respect, etc
Let me conclude.
The purpose for living is to get better, improve the lives of people around you, live fully, die empty, and make heaven, anything outside that might lead to frustration.
Humorously i’d end like this:
Dear Brother,
That you serve a covenant keeping God and have a Blessed assurance in Jesus Christ doesn’t mean you should prioritize CURVEnant sisters with ASSurance over content. If you do, you may end up with pains of regret and you will be doing a reprise of King Solomon’s words on Key F# that “All things(ass, boobs and all) are all vanity upon vanity."
Enjoy your chilly saturday.
Benny Walker
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This is the whole truth Sir.
Our ideology as regards what a relationship should be has changed a lot. It's hard to see men who look out for the real thing before getting into relationships. We base our judgements on the periphery, but this cannot take you long before you get tired of it.
The qualities of Godliness, capacity to build are very important.
But then, you find out that most ladies lack these qualities, even in our church. My question now is : How then can we easily see these qualities amidst all the pretence we get from our supposedly churchy ladies?
There is no easy answer to your question sir.
But first of all, YOU ATTRACT WHO YOU ARE.. So just be who you want to attract, the pretense issues will sort itself out.
Secondly, seek friendship. Good friends easily become lovers. So when you seek friendship, the person doesnt have need to pretend cos you ain't looking for anything per se.. So you can make your decisions based on findings.
I hope my answer helped you a bit.
But the physical qualities of a woman is what attracts you to woman. If a woman like she should be nice, but if she ain't curvy and pretty or she is ugly, I'm not gonna be attracted to her.
Its all good sir, its your decision to make.
Our key points here isn't about attraction. Attraction is good but doesnt keep a man or woman.
Anyway, whatever works for us tho