I got all the way to the bottom and that is when you said, "this applies to both...". Because that was my question: What if he's called to marry her because of her destiny?

This is often overlooked. Much of the male community feel women fantasize about marrying him because of those great visions and or callings in life. What if she knows her burden is so great that she knows there may not be the man that is capable of handling her burden and destiny?

I'm glad you acknowledged that it goes both ways.