The trick is wanting what you get. When you argue with reality, you suffer. Don't focus on what you don't want. Instead be open to everything and embrace it with deep gratitude and humility. That doesn't mean you must drift in space, though. use your senses and awareness to change what you can, accept what you can't and bless it all as it comes to you. It's great to use your imagination and dream about what you want - vision yourself getting it and yet holding it lightly - that's the paradox of life.