How To Fight Familiarity in our Relationships

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THIS IS FAMILIARITY

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Do you want to know one reason why most relationships become very boring after the first few months of meeting or starting off? It's because of this one little comfort zone effect known as "I don see am finish".

It's that point where you get too comfortable with your partner that you begin to loose sight of his/her "wow" peronality before and his/her natural needs as a human being.

It's that point where you so know your partner too well that you stop trying to learn new things about them.

It's that point where you can choose not to be kind, humble, nice, and respectful to your partner because you already known him/her in and out and you just believed they'll still love you all the same after all.

Yes, It is an awesome development to get close with your partner to that level where you can completely be yourselves around each other without planning it out, talk so freely, act so freely as best of friends and all. The truth is that familiarity paves the way for greater intimacy and love between two people because it promotes transperency and sincerity. But on the other hand, becoming too familiar with your man or your woman, can make you forget to acknowledge his headship or "neckship" as the case may be so that you can accord him or her the deserving respect.

When you get too familiar with your woman, you notice that suddenly, you are now ignoring her feminine side that craves for your attention, time, affections, love and care. This is the point where familiarity breeds contempt and problems in the relationship and it's usuall effects that respect and honour begins to wither.

Few quick tips to help deal with familiarity in your relationships expecially in marriage relationship;

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• Learn not to interrupt your partner while having inportant discussion(s)*. Learn how to be a good drama king or queen by beign capabe to switch characters, learn to make serious conversation serious and playful ones, playful. And this is for both parties. Before speaking, just try and learn to say "baby, can I say something ...?" for the people that calls their partner "baby" and for the darling categories, "Darling, please listen to my opinion when you're done with yours? It is respect for your partner, even though the next minute you will start jumping all over each other like two grown puppies, but for that moment of serious bussiness, let your partner know that you haven't lost your sense of respect for him or her at all.

Learn to watch your words and choose your phrases too. Most times the things we say might come out harmful or funny to others, but your partner might think on it later and find it very offensive expecially when playing or when angry.

I have never for a day, said just "morning" to my best friend Chike, even as over familiar as we have become to each other. It has not changed from "Good morning" to "morning dear", I don't let our familiarity get in the way of honouring him any time.

It is good morning every time, not mornin.
It is thanks bro, dear, love etc, not thank u.
It is OK bro, baby, darling, and never kkk.
It's always how are you doing, never hw u.
It's always good night, and never gnt.
It is I'm sorry can not become m sowi.

Dont be fooled, Your words and phrases are so important guys, don't let the familiarity take away the natural respect you're supposed to have for each other and it's not dependent on how happy or angry you are.

We can always laugh all day, talk every munite in the night, gossip other people and jest as we like, call each other funny stupid names, put up wrestling matches and dance competitions before saying our good nights, but in the morning it will be wonderful to get a call, a text or a varbal salutation from you that goes like " Good morning my Queen, my king, my friend, my brother or my sister" and how are you today. Don't let familiarity rob you off the natural needs of your partner in the relationship.

Keep the habit of saying" thank you sir, thank you ma, thank you" as often and as much as you say "thank you baby".
Also, say often "you are welcome ma" as often and as much as you say "you are welcome darling". Use yes "ma", "yes" sir as occasionally as you can in your communication with your partner.

These simple things, drive our relationship. Try them and thank me later. I hope you will start making the corrections where necessary starting from today.

Thanks for reading.