WHAT IS THE EFFECTS OF SAYING YES WHEN YOU ARE MEANT TO SAY NO!!!!!!!

The problems with most of us individuals and our leaders, is that we sometimes fall in the hands of misplaced priority. We don't know how to say NO(instead of saying No we end up saying Yes, misplacing No for Yes).

May be its not placed priority, or better still i will call it inferiority complex not knowing what to say at the right time and when to say it. For example, when it comes to where you are called to judge a case that involve two people and the other party happen to be your friend.

And because you are biased or you are afraid losing your friend when you are meant to do the right thing. Then you end up say Yes!!!!!! when you are meant to say NO!!!!.

Ï think most things is affecting our nation is because of fears which makes, Us individuals and leaders collectively. When to say "Yes" where we are need to say No. If we don't comply which can lead us in to a very big trouble.

That's another disadvantage.But it is good to be principled. No matter what.

SAYING NO DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE A BAD PERSON

Saying no doesn’t mean that you are being rude, selfish, or unkind. These are all unhelpful beliefs that make it hard to say no.

Learning where these beliefs have come from is a great way to learn to let go of them.

Did you ever wonder why it was so easy to say no when you were a little kid and why it has become so difficult now? What happened?

WHEN WE STILL CHILDREN WE LEARNED THAT SAYING NO TO OUR ELDERLY ONCE WAS IMPOLITE OR INAPPROPRIATE

If you said no to your mom, dad, teacher, uncle, grandparents, and so on, you were most certainly considered to be being rude, and you would have probably been told off for it.

SAYING NO WAS OFF LIMITS, AND YES WAS THE POLITE AND LIKABLE THING TO SAY.

Now that we are all adults, we are more mature and capable of making our own choices, as well as knowing the difference between wrong and right. Therefore, no shouldn’t be an off limits word, but rather something that we decide on ourselves, based on our own discretion.

But sadly, we hold onto our childhood beliefs and we continue to associate no with being dislikeable, bad mannered, unkind, or selfish. We worry that if we say no, we will feel humiliated, guilty, or ashamed, and will end up being alone, rejected, or abandoned.Saying No Doesn’t Mean You’re a Bad Person

Saying no doesn’t mean that you are being rude, selfish, or unkind. These are all unhelpful beliefs that make it hard to say no. Learning where these beliefs have come from is a great way to learn to let go of them.

Did you ever wonder why it was so easy to say no when you were a little kid and why it has become so difficult now? What happened?

Well, as children, we learned that saying no was impolite or inappropriate.If you said no to your mom, dad, teacher, uncle, grandparents, and so on, you were most certainly considered to be being rude, and you would have probably been told off for it.

Saying no was off limits, and yes was the polite and likable thing to say. Now that we are all adults, we are more mature and capable of making our own choices, as well as knowing the difference between wrong and right. Therefore, no shouldn’t be an off limits word, but rather something that we decide on ourselves, based on our own discretion.

But sadly, we hold onto our childhood beliefs and we continue to associate no with being dislikeable, bad mannered, unkind, or selfish. We worry that if we say no, we will feel humiliated, guilty, or ashamed, and will end up being alone, rejected, or abandoned.

KNOWING YOUR VALUE

Your problems do not define you. It is how principled you are when it comes to making choices in life in the area of saying No and stand by it.

It’s okay to make mistakes—nobody is perfect, and everybody does things that they regret; this is what makes us human.
What makes a person great is not their looks or achievements, but their willingness to love others, be humble, and grow as a person. You are unique, valuable, and important. No one else in this world can offer what you can.

The second step to learning to say no is realizing that you are valuable and choosing your own opinion about yourself over others.I have learned that if you live your life depending on other people’s approval, you will never feel free and truly happy.

If you depend on other people’s approval, what you are basically saying is “Their opinion of me is more important than my opinion about myself.”