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RE: Control Is The Problem And Not The Solution. ♥
Interesting. I think it's common to want to control things - not just people, but situations and outcomes in general.
There is probably a spectrum involved where directing things the way you prefer them to happen is just a mild type of control.
It is possible to choose outcomes and experiences through attraction, will and desires and in that way there is no control. The differences between the controlling version and the non controlling version are akin to the difference between dragging a child with your hands to force them to go in a particular direction and the child moving in a direction through free will due to understanding being present in them which concurs with your own heart's desire and the true needs of the moment.
If you're consciously aware of what you're drawing in through attraction, and you act with intent, you would be in control.
If the child freely chooses to follow because you have intentionally influenced him or her to see that as the best path, you would be the one in control of the situation and the responsibility for the outcome would be mostly yours.
I say mostly because it is a spectrum, and without divine omnipotence and omniscience to predict outcomes, nobody is ever fully in control of anything.
through ultimate understanding that all is one, there can be a total ending of control - that which is being attracted and drawn is also you.
'influence' is the conjunction of 'in' meaning 'not' and 'fluence' meaning easy/flowing - so influence is in it's phonetic essence and roots an inherent altering away from self empowered free thought and action (aka free will). A child that is being influenced is not, in the purest sense, acting from an entirely free will - however, they can AGREE to meet your intention from their own free willl instead and that is what I am pointing at here. Really, the difference must be felt to understood - mental analysis is insufficient here.
I'm not sure I agree with your translation of influence. If you translate the "in" to just mean in - similar to inspire - and keep fluence/fluency to mean flow, it would mean your will is "flowing within" another.
So if everything ultimately is one, yet still broken into components, "influence" would be similar to the heart pumping blood. The heart and blood are both body, but the heart is directing the flow.
Of course this is a closed system where the heart (ideally) just does what it naturally should do. When changing this analogy to people consciously directing their intent, there is a lot more room for interpretation.
I suppose that would be a study of free will - whether directing your intent is an attempt to influence the world, or whether that very intent is just the effect of all of the influences you've internalized and made part of yourself.
Words often have different interpretations that can all be said to be relevant, even the ones not commonly noticed. I'm not really sure it is possible for my will to flow within another in a way that does not overpower their own will. By definition, the will in the other is either mine or it is overpowering their - unless there is agreement - in which case it would be more of a 'matching' as opposed to my will being in theirs.
Study of free will is far from simple and requires us to actually feel the flow of energy and intentions - plus, every case is unique - so generalising is not always helpful.
The way I understand the law of attraction is that it begins with controlling the self, and aiming the self toward what it wants to attract.
I think if you remain conscious of the self, you would feel your will flowing in others, even as their will is flowing in you (influencing each other) and I think there might be a danger in losing control of something you began with intent.
Your will attracts reflections and draws experiences with or without control. Your state of being is the key and a state of being without control is one that most freely draws peaceful and pleasant experience.
The way to understand this is through feeling, not through purely mental analysis. Will is a literal essence that is part of our makeup as beings, so if it is in others then it is not in it's right place.
I will try to see how this works.