Looking with fresh eyes
I was recently looking at my life and also how others are living theirs. Well, this is nothing new, but this time, I dared to look at it completely different. It doesn’t matter if you are spiritual or not, there is one thread that becomes obvious, when you look at it with fresh eyes, that is the same with almost everyone.
Why so serious?
The common thread is, that we take things very serious.
So whether you are still identified with your body and believe, that happiness is to be found in material things, or you are on a spiritual path, that tells you to find happiness in non-material things - everyone is so very serious about their mission.
You see, there is nothing wrong with being determined to reach some worldly or otherworldly goal, the thing only is, that reaching this goal, just makes more room for new goals to come in.
There is no end in having goals. Even Enlightenment as the ultimate spiritual goal is easily exchanged with higher and loftier goals, like freeing the world of suffering and anchoring in higher dimensions.
Also the millionaire will want to have a 2nd and 3rd million and on and on it goes.
This is what Egos do - even spiritual Egos (which are the toughest ones - believe me, I know that very well…).
If you ask me, what is one of the main building blocks of Egos, I would say, that it’s not what the Ego believes to be true (in fact, that doesn’t matter at all), but how serious the Ego believes it to be.
The endless ways we try to reach goals and how seriousness ties them together
Again, it’s not so much which or how many goals you have, since they will be replaced anyway by new ones over time. As long as the main driving force behind them is not seen, you will keep running in the hamster wheel of struggle on whatever level you are currently at.
Seriousness is the fuel - it keeps the wheel running.
So how does this show up in your daily life?
Let’s look at the life of a spiritual being. You may have found, that Love, Light, Forgiveness, Kindness etc. are qualities to strive for. These are all very beautiful qualities and goals to have. Now you learn methods or ways, how to reach these goals. Again, remember, that it’s not about the goal, but the way you are trying to reach it. As soon as the Ego takes over, you can feel, that things get very serious and heavy very soon.
It becomes work and a mission of this magnitude (Egos believe, that every mission they are on, has a very deep meaning and magnitude), needs to be executed in the most serious manner.
Seriousness is how Egos try to prove to themselves, that what they are doing has meaning.
This is a very important point, because Egos believe that this is the only way how they can achieve things and keep their importance.
The tiny mad idea
In the Course in Miracles Jesus speaks about the main problem of the life’s journey, as the „tiny mad idea“ that we can be separate from God.
Out of this idea that we are separate, and the fact, that this is impossible and therefore an illusionary idea, the whole creation started.
Everything is a symbol of this imaginary separation.
The important point he is making then is, that this illusionary thought of separation is not the real problem, but that we took this idea serious!
What this means is, that the Ego is not the problem - it’s not the enemy that needs to be killed - which is not possible anyway, since the Ego is a mirage by itself. How and most importantly why should you kill something, that does not exist? Killing, ending or getting over things, as well as „working“ on yourself, is exactly the very same Ego thought.
Jesus offering to us is therefore a different one. He says: „Now as you know that you are not separate from God, why not sit with me and let us laugh together at this tiny mad idea!“
He doesn’t say: „Ok, now let’s kill this sucker!“, which would give the Ego and the idea of separation a reality it doesn’t have.
Let’s be very clear on that one: The more you try to work, get rid or overcome the Ego, the more reality you give it and the more serious you become!
Just look with different eyes
So whatever you are doing in your life and whatever goal you have, just try to take a step back and look at your own seriousness.
Again, it doesn’t matter if you are a material, religious, spiritual, esoteric, psychological, or philosophical person - just look at how serious you are about what you are doing. The more serious you are, the more Ego is involved. I dare to say this: Seriousness is how the Ego smells like.
Seriousness is the sweat you smell, when the Ego is doing its hard job.
The moment you smell it, you have the chance to laugh at it and look with the eyes of God instead.
You are silently looking with the fresh eyes of Love, and doing nothing about it. If you see the tendency to blame or guilt yourself for taking things so seriously, you are back in old Ego patterns. That’s why it’s so important to look silently and loving, without doing anything. Just laugh!
Just see, how you made this whole journey so ridiculously complicated.
Laughter is nothing else as the tension in our body/mind loosening up!
Don’t make laughter another serious goal and something you have to reach. Laughter is the natural expression, when looking at your life with Gods eyes.
Blessings, Laughter and much Love,
Atmos
Heck ya, in the reality transurfing book he talks about importance, how placing importance on something actually causes us to either move further away from that possibility, bringing the opposite of what we desire sometimes.
Life should be fun, we shouldn't take everything so seriously. That helps us move on, see what each event is actually showing us, and show us that while we do have opportunities, sometimes they are there to show us something different than what we expect. We can't prescribe outcomes and define how things should go and end up at peace. We can't chase peace and contentment.
Stellar as always
Thank you! Yes, when we make peace our top priority, we can't at the same time pursue our Ego goals. The Ego has only goals inside the illusion. That's not bad or wrong, it's only not leading to true Peace. 🙏
So much yes to this! I've noticed that when I'm feeling more secure and connected to my center I laugh very easily. I always say that my true nature is the Laughing Buddha. We do get so serious when we're coming from ego, which is always wanting to be important and also always wanting to take credit for keeping us safe. Meanwhile, as they say in ACIM, nothing real can be threatened.
Thank you! 🙏
I love that you so innocently and purely embody the Laughing Buddha! This is exactly what "the world" needs. This laughter comes from the unshakable knowing, that reality can't be threatened. Straight to the point! 🎯
I really enjoy reading your articles! As long as we are serious about something we should focus on and get rid of something which is less important, then we will have less stress, more fun and enjoy the life much more!
I love the idea of taking your focus off something that is less important! Thanks for sharing! ❤️
What shall I say? I agree with every single detail ☺
In fact, your article quite overlaps with my most recent one.
Goals always imply current lack, and lack creates inner agony, which in turn can only arise when we are too serious.
Yet in actuality we have it already. Outside the illusion of Time we are already there.
All this 'hard work' and fighting attitude means struggle. We don't need to struggle. And yes, 'There is no end in having goals', because the ego is never in the now, but always in the past or future.
Which brings me back to the Happiness seekers. When we seek something we have already, we can only find things we don't have yet. Separation!!😃
Light has no meaning but Love. Anything beyond it lends it a reality it does not deserve. ALL is Love! :)
Thank you so much! Oh, I have missed your last post - I haven't been very active the past days, because of some restructuring going on in my consciousness. I also got some digestive virus and my whole food ingestion has changed by itself since last week to mainly fruits. I don't know, why I'm telling you this - maybe just to make a point, that for change to happen, we don't need goals at all. 😀
😃Don't take it so seriously! We don't have any obligation but that of BEING! :)
I was taking myself very seriously when I was going through life changes. And I realized that I needed to laugh at myself, particularly at my mistakes.☺️
I can read your writings all days that's really approach different aspects of life.. thanks @atmosblack
Thank you so much! It's my pleasure! 🤗
The first thing I say to serious people is that seriousness is like a clenched fist. The harder you clench the less effective your punch would be. On top of that you'hurt yourself in the process. Sometimes i life, the good is the greatest obstacle to greatness.
Very intelligent post. Resteemed.
Thank you! 🙏
I liked that phrase of Jesus: "Now that you know that you are not separated from God, why do not you sit next to me and laugh together at this small and crazy idea?" I believe that life is a small and crazy idea I agree with that and since it is something small and crazy we should laugh at it and the crazy things tend to make people laugh, we have to laugh to keep ourselves and full of life
Thank you, dear Jenni! 😀🙏
Yes, yes yes... We so need to relax, have more fun and laugh at how serious we made it all out to be. I totally get this and I'm on that path of making everything lighter. Thank you for this.... Such a great post, as always :)
Thank you so much! ❤️
This is insightful. I do my best to expand mybperspective to take in others perceptions. The more eyes i have to look at things the better my life.
When i get to serious i usually focus in with one eye.
I feel that life is a conctant balance between serious choices and fun experiences.
I flow between the responsibikity of these concepts.
Hmmm... I used to be serious on Steemit and it always caused me to feel sad. It's kind of a rollercoaster site so now am just chilling on here when I can.
As for the seriousness you're talking about... Well that's an interesting way to look at it.
When I have decided to reach for a goal, I always take it seriously so I can reach it, otherwise I won't be able to meet the goal. 😉 Not sure if that's what you mean by ego but it helps to be serious about something sometimes.
Well, I guess it's no problem to be serious sometimes - as long as you are not so serious about your seriousness! 😀
I mean with seriousness the way we believe things to be a certain way and not another. It's a place, where we begin to defend ourselves and think, that we are right and others are wrong.
You see, it's perfectly fine to have goals and pursue them, but in the end goals don't matter - they are only tools to find our true happiness inside and once you are resting in this inner place of happiness, you need to be able to drop the goal and everything attached to it. Otherwise you will believe, that the happiness is in the goal (person/relationship/thing), which it really isn't.... Thank you and blessings! 🙏
Okay then. Thanks for clarifying! :D