Why are we jealous? [EN]
"Jealousy: Feeling afraid of losing the loved one."
Jealousy, love and hate are natural emotions of all human beings, but everything has a limit, and we have always said that excess is harmful and everything has both its negative and positive side now well how negative can be the jealousy in a relationship? To what extent is jealousy normal? .
Normally we usually perceive jealousy as a sign of affection on the part of the loved one, and to tell the truth we all feel jealousy sometime in our lives perhaps for fear of losing the person you love or insecurities of ourselves. However, jealousy is based mainly on constant fear of being abandoned and when they appear permanently they can be something sickly and toxic and somehow ends up damaging the love relationship, there are complaints, arguments, fights and demands that result in discomfort for the coexistence of both as a couple.
Controlled jealousy:
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An important part of healthy living together is to learn to control our emotions and avoid a reaction at the moment that can bring negative consequences in the relationship, taking a moment to think before acting or saying something is a way to control our emotions, reflect and learn to differentiate / analyze reality and not get carried away by what "we believe it can be" and end up falling into the manipulation of the imagination.
When you let yourself be dominated by jealousy life changes, it is a total hell to be on the lookout and waiting for your partner to cheat you at some point, it is a great physical and emotional wear for the jealous and the jealous.
Sickly jealousies:
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Believe that someone is their property, be obsessive and want to be the center of attention of their partner; there is an affective dependence on the other and a constant fear that his partner is related to others of the opposite sex, these people feel anguish and anger and get carried away, not by what he sees; but by what he imagines.
The person becomes paranoid and always presumes that you are cheating or at any time you can do it, usually hates all those around the loved one, whether family or co-workers, suffers when he does not see the person and can not know what he is doing and can not control, and that generates a feeling of even greater frustration when the couple is called and he does not answer, immediately begins to imagine a situation of infidelity, and that thought never leaves his head.
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People with sickly jealousy are usually mostly emotionally dependent, where their world and their life revolves around their partner and they feel that without him / her their life has no meaning and is worthless, people with very low self-esteem, insecure and with a great lack of self-confidence, they are dominant and in many cases aggressive and always want to control everything their partner does or does not do.
"Othello syndrome is a delusional disorder in which the sufferer is firmly convinced that his partner is unfaithful, it is also called Celotypia, the celotypic delirium constructs his delirium with irrational data and loses time trying to find" tests "that confirm your suspicions."
Los celos también son el resultado del miedo constante a que la pareja pueda conocer y relacionarse con otras personas, la desconfianza e inseguridades en nosotros mismos es lo que nos hace sentir celos, pero es un poco agotador tener que estar a la expectativa constantemente, yo creo que debemos trabajar en el amor propio y en nuestras inseguridades antes de iniciar una relación amorosa.
No hay nada mas encantador en una persona que se sienta seguro de sí mismo y demuestra confianza en todo momento.
I say goodbye until next time!
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