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We all have moments of emotional clarity and tenderness. Today's entry in the #song-challenge is really a tribute to my beloved lover, my partner in life and love, my nearest and dearest goddess Miona. Read this post from @connecteconomy for more info on this 30+ day challenge.

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DAY 14: A SONG YOU'D LOVE TO BE PLAYED AT YOUR WEDDING.

I've been married once before, to the mother of my daughter. I have to say that I found the whole process of planning a wedding and getting married just as stressful as that relationship was (and often continues to be).

I never really wanted to get married back then, albeit I was totally on board to the notion of commitment. I just never really saw that having it state (or church)-sanctioned was necessary or important. If two people love each other, then making a commitment to each other should be sufficient. Needing it witnessed by others seems irrelevant if they completely surrender into trusting each other's word.

I'm not certain why some folk get their knickers in a knot about the "institution of marriage". When we have pro-marriage politicians having affairs and getting their secret mistresses pregnant and we have marriages as part of reality-TV shows, then I think we need to re-think the importance and relevance of it in our society. Historically, marriage was always about creating expedient political and financial ties amongst the aristocracy, and later the merchant bourgeoisie.

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I still have this cynical response to marriage and weddings.

And yet in my relationship with my current partner, I want to ask her for her hand in marriage. I hope she never reads this post, as it will be betraying my thoughts and plans... 😬. Maybe we will never 'get married' as such, but the fact that I can imagine going through such a ceremony is a pretty good indication of how much Miona means to me, and how much I value our relationship together.

Which is why there was really only one choice of song for today's #song-challenge entry.

Lovesong by The Cure
from their 1989 album Disintegration

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Listen to this song on the STEEMIT SOUNDS: BRING ME A DREAM soundtrack

I think the lyrics of this song summarise my feelings towards her succinctly and adequately, better than anything I could ever express in words.

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Whenever I'm alone with you
You make me feel like I am home again
Whenever I'm alone with you
You make me feel like I am whole again

Whenever I'm alone with you
You make me feel like I am young again
Whenever I'm alone with you
You make me feel like I am fun again

However far away
I will always love you
However long I stay
I will always love you
Whatever words I say
I will always love you
I will always love you

Whenever I'm alone with you
You make me feel like I am free again
Whenever I'm alone with you
You make me feel like I am clean again

However far away
I will always love you
However long I stay
I will always love you
Whatever words I say
I will always love you
I will always love you

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And let's face it - what's there not to love about Rob Smith and his hair? The Cure are a band I got into around the time this album was released. It was the beginning of my foray into alternative/indie music, and the goth-pop sentiments were perfect for my 16 year old self.

When I consider how I dealt with love, romance, and relationships in my younger days, I'm honestly surprised at how I am in such a wonderful partnership today. I was such a jerk! I had no idea how to be a good partner, how to simply be there for her, and how to ask for what I need also.

These are the keys to a genuine, loving relationship in my humble opinion. That, and radical honesty, and not taking anything the other says personally. If you can't communicate honestly with one another, how else do you build trust and respect?

So that's my entry for today.

Enjoy, lovers!
😊🙏🏽💜

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MADE FOR STEEMIT
Soundtrack for this post can be found on this month’s STEEMIT SOUNDS playlist