Yeah Your situations sounds pretty much exactly the same as mine is. Approximately the same amount of years too. Yeah I've noticed I tend to become silent and distant, which she probably even feels that's worse than me just becoming really angry. Also like your saying it compounds those emotion within you only to make them stronger later.

Yeah I think It's the same thing for me but difficult to tell at the same time. Well I'm glad it ended in a good way were you both can still be friends. I definitely want to develop better communication skills also but even more that that I want to develop non-reactive listening. Were I can hear someone talk about anything or talk towards me with any emotion and for me not to absorb or get offended by anything thing they are projecting towards me. It is their emotion and I should not take it personally. Thanks for sharing your story and reading about my experiences.